Not my setback, but my new concern.
I had a bit of a setback last night, really makes me mad - and it's the first time I've wanted to cry (but, I didn't - which is a good sign) in months... really makes me upset. I felt like I was over it, and moved on or at least really far into moving on. So, to say I'm disappointed is an understatement.
But - I get word from son late last night, on Mothers Day at that - that his Dad told him about his "new woman" the night before - and told him all about her - and how great she was. Son even went into "She might be my step mom one day, and her daughters will be my step sisters". I said Oh yeah? He said yeah, maybe.. that's what Dad said. He didn't come out and tell me this on his own. He was texting his dad, and then set his phone next to me (and our phones are identical - with same sounds, cases and everything) while I was filling out some paperwork, and when his Dad replied (I looked over at it, picked it up - not thinking - b/c I thought it was mine) and, - it was something, about this woman - and how he was going there or something. I didn't really inspect it (b/c I quickly realized it wasn't for me and I handed it over to son) - but, son noticed I saw it - and that is what he then said to me, then he was upset and said "I was told not to tell you". You could see he didn't want to tell me, and I didn't pry for anything - you could see his little face that it hurt him to know I saw that. So, I immediate told him -- It's okay!! You didn't tell me, you did good - I saw it by accident. I'm not upset, I'm not mad - my feelings aren't hurt, it's okay!
Of course, my feelings were hurt... and when son went on to bed which is where he was headed, which was why phone got set next to me in first place - I went flying out in the garage with my phone, and called my Mom. I thought I was going to cry, but I didn't. I was able to save face and continue my strength.
I knew about this woman, she is no surprise. It was just the whole, my son found out - and now seems to think, she might soon be step-mom that got me. I don't like that... in fact I hate it. I'm happy son seems okay.. he didn't seem bothered by it, I asked him if he was - and he said "No, that is what happens, it's part of life.. it happened to so and so, and now it's happening to me". So sad.
My question is, how often do you lose your son to a "step-mom"? That freaks me the heck out. I can't let that happen... That would destroy me like no other. Son and I are close and I've been there for him 100% unlike his sh.t father - but, now I feel sh.t father is reeling him back in - after he has almost totally ignored his son this past almost 1 year - and now all of a sudden, he tells him about this new woman and takes him someplace this weekend. This is the first time he took him somewhere "fun" - since last Fall. I'm not exaggerating. Normally he just takes him to take him, then goes off and does his thing leaving son there to watch TV or whatever.
Ugh. Driving me nuts.
I just have this horrible vision that, she is going to come swooping in with her fake whatever - which I can tell she is, and totally pull my son away from me. I just have that fear. I hate it and it kept me up last night.
I had a bit of a setback last night, really makes me mad - and it's the first time I've wanted to cry (but, I didn't - which is a good sign) in months... really makes me upset. I felt like I was over it, and moved on or at least really far into moving on. So, to say I'm disappointed is an understatement.
But - I get word from son late last night, on Mothers Day at that - that his Dad told him about his "new woman" the night before - and told him all about her - and how great she was. Son even went into "She might be my step mom one day, and her daughters will be my step sisters". I said Oh yeah? He said yeah, maybe.. that's what Dad said. He didn't come out and tell me this on his own. He was texting his dad, and then set his phone next to me (and our phones are identical - with same sounds, cases and everything) while I was filling out some paperwork, and when his Dad replied (I looked over at it, picked it up - not thinking - b/c I thought it was mine) and, - it was something, about this woman - and how he was going there or something. I didn't really inspect it (b/c I quickly realized it wasn't for me and I handed it over to son) - but, son noticed I saw it - and that is what he then said to me, then he was upset and said "I was told not to tell you". You could see he didn't want to tell me, and I didn't pry for anything - you could see his little face that it hurt him to know I saw that. So, I immediate told him -- It's okay!! You didn't tell me, you did good - I saw it by accident. I'm not upset, I'm not mad - my feelings aren't hurt, it's okay!
Of course, my feelings were hurt... and when son went on to bed which is where he was headed, which was why phone got set next to me in first place - I went flying out in the garage with my phone, and called my Mom. I thought I was going to cry, but I didn't. I was able to save face and continue my strength.
I knew about this woman, she is no surprise. It was just the whole, my son found out - and now seems to think, she might soon be step-mom that got me. I don't like that... in fact I hate it. I'm happy son seems okay.. he didn't seem bothered by it, I asked him if he was - and he said "No, that is what happens, it's part of life.. it happened to so and so, and now it's happening to me". So sad.
My question is, how often do you lose your son to a "step-mom"? That freaks me the heck out. I can't let that happen... That would destroy me like no other. Son and I are close and I've been there for him 100% unlike his sh.t father - but, now I feel sh.t father is reeling him back in - after he has almost totally ignored his son this past almost 1 year - and now all of a sudden, he tells him about this new woman and takes him someplace this weekend. This is the first time he took him somewhere "fun" - since last Fall. I'm not exaggerating. Normally he just takes him to take him, then goes off and does his thing leaving son there to watch TV or whatever.
Ugh. Driving me nuts.
I just have this horrible vision that, she is going to come swooping in with her fake whatever - which I can tell she is, and totally pull my son away from me. I just have that fear. I hate it and it kept me up last night.
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