A few years ago, due to various stressors in my life/relationship with my wife I had been watching a bit of porn here and there. I've never been one of the types to download gigabytes of it and catalogue it or what not. Just checked out some of the free sites. I went through a period of time where I tried to justify doing this behind my wife's back, but it reached a point where I just couldn't take the guilt of being dishonest with her so I finally got up the courage and told her what I had been doing, but that I was REALLY unhappy with myself for it and wanted to get website filtering software. I've done so and have such software installed on all my PCs and also my smartphone. She holds the key to all of them. Basically if I ever go to anything bad, she gets an email about it.
As a result I haven't seen any porn in over two years. Oddly I don't think I had either a positive or negative effect on our sex life, but I think I have an improved self image. I'm not sure to what degree that is due to being brought up thinking it was bad and to what degree it is objectively true, but I think it's definitely healthier to not watch the stuff.
It's funny though, there's still a part of me that wishes I could see just a little every now and then even though I still very much enjoy sex with my wife. Why? I guess there's just a part of the male psyche that feels entitled or something. I'm not happy that part of me exists. But at least I have changed my environment so I can't get at it anymore. Of course I still fantasize every now and then about women other than my wife. Not actual women I meet mind you, just images of women I invent in my head. Often they are similar to my wife. It's hard to control THAT. I feel like it's built in to the male brain. Like a built in porn channel, hah. "Find creatures that look like this, and then inseminate them" <<
As a result I haven't seen any porn in over two years. Oddly I don't think I had either a positive or negative effect on our sex life, but I think I have an improved self image. I'm not sure to what degree that is due to being brought up thinking it was bad and to what degree it is objectively true, but I think it's definitely healthier to not watch the stuff.
It's funny though, there's still a part of me that wishes I could see just a little every now and then even though I still very much enjoy sex with my wife. Why? I guess there's just a part of the male psyche that feels entitled or something. I'm not happy that part of me exists. But at least I have changed my environment so I can't get at it anymore. Of course I still fantasize every now and then about women other than my wife. Not actual women I meet mind you, just images of women I invent in my head. Often they are similar to my wife. It's hard to control THAT. I feel like it's built in to the male brain. Like a built in porn channel, hah. "Find creatures that look like this, and then inseminate them" <<
Put the internet to work for you.
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