I am not changing my mind about my path but I a question/though that is now hypothetical for me now.
When you are in R from a failed marriage and need to reset, or introduce boundaries to fix it, do you strive to enforce all the boundaries at once or do you evolve into them over time. For example you might set boundaries with behavior you find to be the biggest deal breaker, like mental abuse, and then later, assuming that is working, move onto boundaries about finances, budget, health, ect? Everything at once or an evolution?
Everything at once seems like it could be overwhelming, and perhaps misguided with sincere R. But then a graduated evolution into new boundaries might get lost on the way or lose the shock of D-Day over time.
When you are in R from a failed marriage and need to reset, or introduce boundaries to fix it, do you strive to enforce all the boundaries at once or do you evolve into them over time. For example you might set boundaries with behavior you find to be the biggest deal breaker, like mental abuse, and then later, assuming that is working, move onto boundaries about finances, budget, health, ect? Everything at once or an evolution?
Everything at once seems like it could be overwhelming, and perhaps misguided with sincere R. But then a graduated evolution into new boundaries might get lost on the way or lose the shock of D-Day over time.
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