Hi guys. Feeling pretty conflicted and emotional right now and was really hoping someone could offer me some advice about my long-term relationship.
My boyfriend (I'll be referring to him as 'Charlie': NOT his real name, as anonymity is really important to me, but he does look like a Charlie) and I have been 'going steady' for about three months now. We're at the stage where we'll hold hands in public, cook together, etc. We haven't talked about the future explicitly, but we're at a comfortable level where I'll make jokes about marriage and he usually jokes about not ever wanting to. All the couple-y things I was hoping for when I met him - for the most part, I'm really, really in love.
Here's the problem. Unfortunately, Charlie's political and sociological beliefs just don't align with mine. I'm not afraid to say that I'm a woman with strong views on politics, and I've been a Labour supporter literally all of my life. He, on the other hand, is totally right wing. He doesn't believe in the minimum wage, and he thinks businesses should be allowed to do pretty much whatever they want (like exploit immigrants and not pay taxes). One time he even said that there's nothing beneficial about benefits. Think about it - that's a total, blatant paradigm. :unimpressed:
I'm also a firm believer in feminism, and I don't think Charlie really gets it. If we go out for a meal, he'll sometimes try to pay for my half - which is completely mortifying and offensive, as I can both stand and eat on my own two feet TYVM. He suggested that I wear a dress to his sister's graduation. He thinks women have to shave their legs to get by in society - I kinda agree but it's really not his place to decide.
Phew... Just writing that all down has made me feel better. What do you guys think I should do? :(
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