My husband is 30 and I am 29. We have been married for 5 years, together for 9 total. Sex has always been an issue. I love it but nothing gets me going, nothing at all. I have to force myself to want it or nothing will happen. I have gone to several doctors and they tell me nothing is wrong with me and I just need to do it.
I have spent years wondering what could be wrong with me and I think I figued it out. I have no sexual experience at all. My first partner was pathetic in bed. Lasted only a couple minutes and it was all about him. Then I met my husband and he thought me we could have sex for as long as we wanted and I too could orgasm multiple times. The problem is I have always felt like I am inadequate sexually for him. He says that it is good but I know he is missing stuff. I admit I am not experience or adventurous at all. He recommends things and I am just not interested. I really only feel comfortable with, me on top, him on top, or me giving him a BJ, anything else makes me feel uncomfortable.
We have been searching what to do when a woman feels so inexperienced. Well at first when I discussed this with my husband his response was go get experience then. I blew him off.. Yeah right.. So I started researching it with him and we came across several websites saying the same thing. If you feel lack of experience is the problem, the only way to fix that is to gain experience. Though I never ever would think of cheating on my husband he is telling me if this would fix out sex problems he would be ok with it happening. Also another thing we came across would be that you could do a threesome as well, with a third 3 for added experience. Or with a woman, and with a woman I would be able to learn what he likes from seeing an experienced woman have sex with him
Now this is not ideal at all, and like I said I never would of thought of doing this. But when my husband and I sat down and read it together it almost made sence. He said there is no way he would of ever thought of it either but if it could fix our sex life he is ok with it. Since sex is an important part of marriage to him.
Has anyone else been here?
Any advice?
I have spent years wondering what could be wrong with me and I think I figued it out. I have no sexual experience at all. My first partner was pathetic in bed. Lasted only a couple minutes and it was all about him. Then I met my husband and he thought me we could have sex for as long as we wanted and I too could orgasm multiple times. The problem is I have always felt like I am inadequate sexually for him. He says that it is good but I know he is missing stuff. I admit I am not experience or adventurous at all. He recommends things and I am just not interested. I really only feel comfortable with, me on top, him on top, or me giving him a BJ, anything else makes me feel uncomfortable.
We have been searching what to do when a woman feels so inexperienced. Well at first when I discussed this with my husband his response was go get experience then. I blew him off.. Yeah right.. So I started researching it with him and we came across several websites saying the same thing. If you feel lack of experience is the problem, the only way to fix that is to gain experience. Though I never ever would think of cheating on my husband he is telling me if this would fix out sex problems he would be ok with it happening. Also another thing we came across would be that you could do a threesome as well, with a third 3 for added experience. Or with a woman, and with a woman I would be able to learn what he likes from seeing an experienced woman have sex with him
Now this is not ideal at all, and like I said I never would of thought of doing this. But when my husband and I sat down and read it together it almost made sence. He said there is no way he would of ever thought of it either but if it could fix our sex life he is ok with it. Since sex is an important part of marriage to him.
Has anyone else been here?
Any advice?
Put the internet to work for you.
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