Married 25 years. Got two kids - one is just 2 yr old.
Wife last few years diagnosed with fibromyalgia. Dont know a lot about it but she tells me shes in pain all the time and tired etc.
I work a fair distance away (and do very well). Its 90 mins commute each way so makes for a LONG day. But the money is excellent. Shes just had to give up work this last year so it helps.
By the time I get home, food is cooked, baby is ready for bed etc so cant complain. At the weekend, we do lots of stuff together.
Only problem is she hates me doing anything on my own. i.e. I cant even have an hour out with friends or family without taking the baby. She says she struggles all week while I'm in work and that Im not being fair even leaving baby with her for an hour at the weekend.
I just feel all I'm good for is earning lots of money in the week which she spends and then at the weekend I have to take over baby care. She just doesnt care I've been in work all week!
Now I know this illness is not great and affects her. I've tried to help - baby goes to childminder part of two days per week, I pay for a cleaner once a week to clean the house.
She can get really nasty and says Im selfish if I even try to arrange something for a few hours weeks in advance which means she has to look after the baby? Am I being unfair here?
She does normally give in but makes it really hard work for me.
Must admit she was never really like this before she was ill. She was always one for thinking she worked the hardest and never one to look at what other people did for her but never this bad.
I must admit when I get up early and drive miles to work, stress out, miles home I think why the hell am I doing this? She doesnt appreciate and just spends it anyway.
Wife last few years diagnosed with fibromyalgia. Dont know a lot about it but she tells me shes in pain all the time and tired etc.
I work a fair distance away (and do very well). Its 90 mins commute each way so makes for a LONG day. But the money is excellent. Shes just had to give up work this last year so it helps.
By the time I get home, food is cooked, baby is ready for bed etc so cant complain. At the weekend, we do lots of stuff together.
Only problem is she hates me doing anything on my own. i.e. I cant even have an hour out with friends or family without taking the baby. She says she struggles all week while I'm in work and that Im not being fair even leaving baby with her for an hour at the weekend.
I just feel all I'm good for is earning lots of money in the week which she spends and then at the weekend I have to take over baby care. She just doesnt care I've been in work all week!
Now I know this illness is not great and affects her. I've tried to help - baby goes to childminder part of two days per week, I pay for a cleaner once a week to clean the house.
She can get really nasty and says Im selfish if I even try to arrange something for a few hours weeks in advance which means she has to look after the baby? Am I being unfair here?
She does normally give in but makes it really hard work for me.
Must admit she was never really like this before she was ill. She was always one for thinking she worked the hardest and never one to look at what other people did for her but never this bad.
I must admit when I get up early and drive miles to work, stress out, miles home I think why the hell am I doing this? She doesnt appreciate and just spends it anyway.
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