Excuse me if I annoy anyone I'm basically going to vent.
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Where do I start, Started dating my wife January of 2012. Got married December of 2013 and she gave birth to my beautiful baby boy February 10 2014. She is currently 19 I am 22.
We were always an exciting outgoing couple, she got along with my family, I got along with her family.
Around May of 2013 she moved into my parents house with me, because her and her sister(who was her primary guardian) could not stand each other anymore so she essentially got kicked out and my parents allowed her to stay with me. Everything was nice and dandy up until I left for boot camp in September of 2013. My brother and his girlfriend got into a childish argument with my wife about a chair at the dining table. My wife was pregnant with my son at the time, so she took extreme offense to this because my child's life was put into danger. Well okay I graduate boot camp, and get into my brothers butt about why this happened and of course I sided with my wife and yelled at him, he apologized and we moved on with our life.
February 2014 my son is born, and my mom is being an annoying grandma basically trying to tell my wife how to Feed and care for our child. She was being beyond persistent that my wife should give the baby formula because my wife wasn't making enough breast milk Yada yada. Just trying to tell us when to feed the baby and stuff. Her intentions were good it's just she got annoying. Anyways while I'm in Florida, my wife's sister gets back in touch with my wife and they become close again Beautiful! I love that because I didnt like the idea of my wife not having any contact with any of her family. I love seeing my wife have a beautiful bond with her family.
Well I come back from Florida and we move into our own apartment and live there for several months. Than we finally get our own house and at this point there is still a beautiful bond between Us and our familys.
Well my son's first birthday party was creeping up and my wife was %100 set that she was not going to let my brothers girlfriend in our house. My mom than was saying well shes going to come, and I'm not going to tell her she can't come. My wife than accused her of making rules at our home, that it's her home and only she can make rules. Well at the time I disagreed with her because I've always been raised to be a good host, and as much as I don't like my brothers girlfriend, I wasnt going to tell him he can't bring her because if he did the same thing to me, I would be extremely offended. Anyways me aND my wife got into huge arguments days approaching the party, to the point where she slapped me, bit me, scratched me, punched me. Don't get me wrong I was saying many many hurtful things that sparked those actions. I am in no way an angel or perfect human being. anyways party happened we all had a good time, my brother never showed up because his girlfriend wasn't invited. Anyw ays I realized my wife had a point and she's different than me, so I understand why she wouldn't want someone who makes her feel uncomfortable show up to her house. My wife felt like I wasn't being supportive(which I wasnt).
Now, she dislikes my family. She won't go to any family events. She doesnt mind me going to my family's house, but she won't let me take my son so my parents can see him, yet she spends several days at her sisters house With my son. She hates my brother, and constantly makes remarks about how worthless he is, how he's stupid, how is girlfriend is ugly, how he needs to save money because he wants to be taking his girlfriend out all the time. The problem here is that if I don't agree or don't have anything to say, she automatically assumes I'm against her and I'm trying to defend him. I would just rather not sit and make rude remarks about my brother for an hour.
But Don't dare make a remark about her side of the family because I have no right to according to her.
My little sister absolutely loves my wife, and recently my wife has been so mean to her, she gets mad at her, won't talk to her, and I dont see why? She's 8 years old and loves her! My wife really doesnt like the fact that my family gets along with my brothers girlfriendmy I think that's it, but I if I dare ask her about it she's offended and angry. My wife is a wonderful mom and wife! I won't ever deny that. I just feel like I'm the worthless husband who can't do anything right. I ask her what it is I can do to make her happy and she says she doesn't know?
I'm at the point where divorce sounds to me like a way out of this prison I'm in, but I'm terrified of leaving my son. I know she will go against all odds to keep me from him and it scares me. I just don't know what to do anymore I'm just so lost. I don't have anyone to vent to because she dislikes the idea of me talking about our relationship to anyone so I respect that and I don't. It's hard to type out how I feel but I need help what can I do? I want to raise my son, but I can't imagine living like this for years.
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Where do I start, Started dating my wife January of 2012. Got married December of 2013 and she gave birth to my beautiful baby boy February 10 2014. She is currently 19 I am 22.
We were always an exciting outgoing couple, she got along with my family, I got along with her family.
Around May of 2013 she moved into my parents house with me, because her and her sister(who was her primary guardian) could not stand each other anymore so she essentially got kicked out and my parents allowed her to stay with me. Everything was nice and dandy up until I left for boot camp in September of 2013. My brother and his girlfriend got into a childish argument with my wife about a chair at the dining table. My wife was pregnant with my son at the time, so she took extreme offense to this because my child's life was put into danger. Well okay I graduate boot camp, and get into my brothers butt about why this happened and of course I sided with my wife and yelled at him, he apologized and we moved on with our life.
February 2014 my son is born, and my mom is being an annoying grandma basically trying to tell my wife how to Feed and care for our child. She was being beyond persistent that my wife should give the baby formula because my wife wasn't making enough breast milk Yada yada. Just trying to tell us when to feed the baby and stuff. Her intentions were good it's just she got annoying. Anyways while I'm in Florida, my wife's sister gets back in touch with my wife and they become close again Beautiful! I love that because I didnt like the idea of my wife not having any contact with any of her family. I love seeing my wife have a beautiful bond with her family.
Well I come back from Florida and we move into our own apartment and live there for several months. Than we finally get our own house and at this point there is still a beautiful bond between Us and our familys.
Well my son's first birthday party was creeping up and my wife was %100 set that she was not going to let my brothers girlfriend in our house. My mom than was saying well shes going to come, and I'm not going to tell her she can't come. My wife than accused her of making rules at our home, that it's her home and only she can make rules. Well at the time I disagreed with her because I've always been raised to be a good host, and as much as I don't like my brothers girlfriend, I wasnt going to tell him he can't bring her because if he did the same thing to me, I would be extremely offended. Anyways me aND my wife got into huge arguments days approaching the party, to the point where she slapped me, bit me, scratched me, punched me. Don't get me wrong I was saying many many hurtful things that sparked those actions. I am in no way an angel or perfect human being. anyways party happened we all had a good time, my brother never showed up because his girlfriend wasn't invited. Anyw ays I realized my wife had a point and she's different than me, so I understand why she wouldn't want someone who makes her feel uncomfortable show up to her house. My wife felt like I wasn't being supportive(which I wasnt).
Now, she dislikes my family. She won't go to any family events. She doesnt mind me going to my family's house, but she won't let me take my son so my parents can see him, yet she spends several days at her sisters house With my son. She hates my brother, and constantly makes remarks about how worthless he is, how he's stupid, how is girlfriend is ugly, how he needs to save money because he wants to be taking his girlfriend out all the time. The problem here is that if I don't agree or don't have anything to say, she automatically assumes I'm against her and I'm trying to defend him. I would just rather not sit and make rude remarks about my brother for an hour.
But Don't dare make a remark about her side of the family because I have no right to according to her.
My little sister absolutely loves my wife, and recently my wife has been so mean to her, she gets mad at her, won't talk to her, and I dont see why? She's 8 years old and loves her! My wife really doesnt like the fact that my family gets along with my brothers girlfriendmy I think that's it, but I if I dare ask her about it she's offended and angry. My wife is a wonderful mom and wife! I won't ever deny that. I just feel like I'm the worthless husband who can't do anything right. I ask her what it is I can do to make her happy and she says she doesn't know?
I'm at the point where divorce sounds to me like a way out of this prison I'm in, but I'm terrified of leaving my son. I know she will go against all odds to keep me from him and it scares me. I just don't know what to do anymore I'm just so lost. I don't have anyone to vent to because she dislikes the idea of me talking about our relationship to anyone so I respect that and I don't. It's hard to type out how I feel but I need help what can I do? I want to raise my son, but I can't imagine living like this for years.
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