Hello guys. I've got an issue I need advice on.
So my fiance is 25 weeks along in her pregnancy and it feels like she is overriding my decisions already about how we are to raise our unborn child.
So here's the issue; we talked about baptizing her as an infant. My fiance is Catholic and I am Lutheran. She doesn't particularly care for Lutheranism and I feel the same about the Catholic church. We came to a compromise;waiting until our daughter is around the age of 8, so she can decide for herself whether or not she wants to be babtized and in which church. That was a couple months ago. Problem solved right? Nope.
So yesterday I get home from work and she's picking out churches (catholic) to babtize our daughter. I asked her about this and she said that her family feels we need to babtize her as an infant, and that because her family is Catholic, this is the route we will go. I then asked her about the compromise we agreed on and she basically overridden me on this and allowed her family to get the final rule.
We talked about it for a bit and she told me the reason for her not liking the Lutheran Church. Which basically amounted to its not in her Hispanic culture to like anything that is NOT the catholic church and that her family is devout Catholic (even though her brother renounced the church and turned to Mormonism). I then told her my reasoning for not liking the Catholic church.
Long story short, she didn't like my reasoning behind me not liking the catholic church and took offense by it. This isn't the first time she let outsiders override me on the parental issue.
How do I handle this? Its terrifying to think that I'm going to be reduced to sitting on the outside looking in as my fiance allows her family and friends to dictate how we are to raise our children. When do I put my foot down? Is this just her harmones going wack? Do I just allow her to make these decisions and wait until our daughter is born to put my foot down about outsiders overriding me on issues?
So my fiance is 25 weeks along in her pregnancy and it feels like she is overriding my decisions already about how we are to raise our unborn child.
So here's the issue; we talked about baptizing her as an infant. My fiance is Catholic and I am Lutheran. She doesn't particularly care for Lutheranism and I feel the same about the Catholic church. We came to a compromise;waiting until our daughter is around the age of 8, so she can decide for herself whether or not she wants to be babtized and in which church. That was a couple months ago. Problem solved right? Nope.
So yesterday I get home from work and she's picking out churches (catholic) to babtize our daughter. I asked her about this and she said that her family feels we need to babtize her as an infant, and that because her family is Catholic, this is the route we will go. I then asked her about the compromise we agreed on and she basically overridden me on this and allowed her family to get the final rule.
We talked about it for a bit and she told me the reason for her not liking the Lutheran Church. Which basically amounted to its not in her Hispanic culture to like anything that is NOT the catholic church and that her family is devout Catholic (even though her brother renounced the church and turned to Mormonism). I then told her my reasoning for not liking the Catholic church.
Long story short, she didn't like my reasoning behind me not liking the catholic church and took offense by it. This isn't the first time she let outsiders override me on the parental issue.
How do I handle this? Its terrifying to think that I'm going to be reduced to sitting on the outside looking in as my fiance allows her family and friends to dictate how we are to raise our children. When do I put my foot down? Is this just her harmones going wack? Do I just allow her to make these decisions and wait until our daughter is born to put my foot down about outsiders overriding me on issues?
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