Hey Folks,
I havent posted on here in a while, but I have before on some issues i've been having in the past.
One of the current issues is sex in my marriage. We have been married 17 years(im 38 and she is 40), two kids. We never really had a "wild" sex life or anything. Even when we were newly married, we would have sex a few times a month.
Anyway, i've been more vocal about things in my marriage that have been aggrivating me and there has been some improvement in that area from my wife. But, the sex part, is kind of sliding downhill. She is becoming more interested and I am becoming even less interested. She is definately thin/pretty/etc and I am in good "used" condition - but not as athletic/etc as she is.
Anyway, for years I've been able to gloss over things that have driven me crazy, and only recently started to discuss those things (over the last year) and there has been improvement.
But, the sex stuff, much harder for me to gloss over and play nice, when i really kinda don't want to play?
So i started exploring some other options, like my BP medication I was on. we changed that, no real difference. Then I started going down other roads. My dr. gave me a viagra prescription - gah! i took 1/2 of a pill once, a few weeks ago. maybe noticed some difference? then had a testosterone test recently and it came back with a reading of 283 and they say normal range was 300-650. So he gave me a prescription for androgel.
Now....comes the real dilema. I don't think i have any "LowT" symptoms. Maybe reduced sex drive and an "iffy stiffy" but nothing else. I wonder if we are just not a good chemistry match anymore? I don't like the way she kisses and just the whole interaction seems a bit more forced than it should be....so I am weighing....do I take this Androgel stuff that I really don't think I need to see if I can chemically induce "sexy fun" or....well...i don't know what the "or" is. We did some couples counsling earlier this year, i've thought about leaving for other reasons, but those two 10 year old kids we have....I'd really like to not upset them. My father says, wait 8 more years or 6, kids will be older - then it might be different?
Basically, my main issue now is do I add this powerful chemical into the mix (androgel) to try to compensate for what may really be waning/falling-out-of attraction in my marriage? :scratchhead:
any thoughts would be appreciated
I havent posted on here in a while, but I have before on some issues i've been having in the past.
One of the current issues is sex in my marriage. We have been married 17 years(im 38 and she is 40), two kids. We never really had a "wild" sex life or anything. Even when we were newly married, we would have sex a few times a month.
Anyway, i've been more vocal about things in my marriage that have been aggrivating me and there has been some improvement in that area from my wife. But, the sex part, is kind of sliding downhill. She is becoming more interested and I am becoming even less interested. She is definately thin/pretty/etc and I am in good "used" condition - but not as athletic/etc as she is.
Anyway, for years I've been able to gloss over things that have driven me crazy, and only recently started to discuss those things (over the last year) and there has been improvement.
But, the sex stuff, much harder for me to gloss over and play nice, when i really kinda don't want to play?
So i started exploring some other options, like my BP medication I was on. we changed that, no real difference. Then I started going down other roads. My dr. gave me a viagra prescription - gah! i took 1/2 of a pill once, a few weeks ago. maybe noticed some difference? then had a testosterone test recently and it came back with a reading of 283 and they say normal range was 300-650. So he gave me a prescription for androgel.
Now....comes the real dilema. I don't think i have any "LowT" symptoms. Maybe reduced sex drive and an "iffy stiffy" but nothing else. I wonder if we are just not a good chemistry match anymore? I don't like the way she kisses and just the whole interaction seems a bit more forced than it should be....so I am weighing....do I take this Androgel stuff that I really don't think I need to see if I can chemically induce "sexy fun" or....well...i don't know what the "or" is. We did some couples counsling earlier this year, i've thought about leaving for other reasons, but those two 10 year old kids we have....I'd really like to not upset them. My father says, wait 8 more years or 6, kids will be older - then it might be different?
Basically, my main issue now is do I add this powerful chemical into the mix (androgel) to try to compensate for what may really be waning/falling-out-of attraction in my marriage? :scratchhead:
any thoughts would be appreciated
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