Hello all first time poster and possible more in the future.. I have a should I feel like this question.
Background: Me and my husband have been married for the last 4 years, up till recently we have been fighting endlessly ... due to the fact I was uneasy about his best friend (we'll call her Tina for name sake) and their increasing togetherness.. I told his this and he took it as jealousy .. which i admit it was but they work together , have the same hobby class together and talk endless on Facebook... so well we separated for a short time and recently got back together.
During this time I realized my wrongs, and currently working on my needy self and he also is working on his communication towards my feelings. Well, he has become more the put his foot down while I have become more passive. this is our last chance one last go at saving the marriage before its over..
Now my should I feel this way : We are going to a festival and after was post to go to his best friends Tina game night after, but he told me tonight that tina said she did not want me to come over because of my recent outbursts about her and towards him (my husband) .. my husband said its best you stay and not go but he is still going without me. I feel like if I asked for them to just relax on facebook in the later evening with talking to his best friend (not to stop their friendship) he gets very upset at me.. but if she desires me not to join in on their friends game not he is alright with it and it feels like he takes her side.
I feel so sad and set up for failure , like I feel like ****.. I know I jumped before but now Im trying and doing better but I must take the submissive side or risk killing my marriage..
he (we'll i think ) cant be having an affair because she has a bf that they have been together for years and my husband is good friends also with tina's BF. and He still says I love you and even cried that he doesn't want to end our marriage but give it one last good try... But Should I just ignore it or take it to heart and just figure the marriage is not worth it no more.. and just let go sooner then later? Any advise or just tell me to back off would be good thank you in advance.
Background: Me and my husband have been married for the last 4 years, up till recently we have been fighting endlessly ... due to the fact I was uneasy about his best friend (we'll call her Tina for name sake) and their increasing togetherness.. I told his this and he took it as jealousy .. which i admit it was but they work together , have the same hobby class together and talk endless on Facebook... so well we separated for a short time and recently got back together.
During this time I realized my wrongs, and currently working on my needy self and he also is working on his communication towards my feelings. Well, he has become more the put his foot down while I have become more passive. this is our last chance one last go at saving the marriage before its over..
Now my should I feel this way : We are going to a festival and after was post to go to his best friends Tina game night after, but he told me tonight that tina said she did not want me to come over because of my recent outbursts about her and towards him (my husband) .. my husband said its best you stay and not go but he is still going without me. I feel like if I asked for them to just relax on facebook in the later evening with talking to his best friend (not to stop their friendship) he gets very upset at me.. but if she desires me not to join in on their friends game not he is alright with it and it feels like he takes her side.
I feel so sad and set up for failure , like I feel like ****.. I know I jumped before but now Im trying and doing better but I must take the submissive side or risk killing my marriage..
he (we'll i think ) cant be having an affair because she has a bf that they have been together for years and my husband is good friends also with tina's BF. and He still says I love you and even cried that he doesn't want to end our marriage but give it one last good try... But Should I just ignore it or take it to heart and just figure the marriage is not worth it no more.. and just let go sooner then later? Any advise or just tell me to back off would be good thank you in advance.
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