I have been MIA for a long time from TAM. Just a lot of stuff in the real world going on and I felt like I needed to focus on my relationship and stop reading about others infidelity so much.
My guy and I have been around and around for almost four years. He cheated on me while I was pregnant with our child in 2011. We reconciled, but it has been up and down ever since. I never really forgave him, I never really trusted him again. There has been domestic violence and he has had urges to go outside of our relationship, but he always fought them off.
We moved away from New Jersey and back to AZ because there were too many triggers. Ever since we moved out here, he has been going to bars for karaoke 3 or 4 times a week. I voiced my fears about him going out so much and I didn't feel comfortable with him being in that environment. He kept saying I have to trust him, I have to forgive him. Well tonight, he came back from the bar again...and I again told him that he is going out too much. Given our past, it just isn't right.
He then said that maybe we shouldn't be together...I knew right then something was going on. I point blank asked him what was going on and what was making it so easy for him to say that. He told me that he has been talking to a woman he met at the bar for the last two weeks. He likes her, and wants to pursue a relationship but she told him he needed to end it with me first. He says nothing physical has happened, just emotional. I don't believe him. I flushed my engagement ring down the toilet.
He doesn't want to work on our relationship any more. He is too fogged up. I told him he can't go to the bars any more and he can't see her. He said he can't promise anything. I knew right then, it was over. I started to give him the ultimatum, her or me. I felt so weak even asking it. I took it back and said never mind. I won't ask him to make a choice, he did that already when he started talking to this woman about things he shouldn't have been.
He told me he loves me, but not in love and is not attracted to me. He defended her, said she is a nice person :banghead::bsflag: and that I had better not even think about finding her and confronting her. That I need to be an adult and mature about it. That he will go after me for harassment if I do confront her.
This man is a stay at home dad. He has no money, no car, no job. Zero job prospects. He is throwing his family and home away for a woman he has known for two weeks. He admitted the cheating to her, but not the domestic violence.
So that is it...I stayed even though he hit me but if he cheated again (even emotional), I would be done.
If he hasn't slept with her yet, he will be by Tuesday night. It kills me...it kills me that this person that has hurt me so much still has the power to keep doing it, and it is only because I continued to give him the power. lisab is once again heartbroken and I only have myself to blame for staying.
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
My guy and I have been around and around for almost four years. He cheated on me while I was pregnant with our child in 2011. We reconciled, but it has been up and down ever since. I never really forgave him, I never really trusted him again. There has been domestic violence and he has had urges to go outside of our relationship, but he always fought them off.
We moved away from New Jersey and back to AZ because there were too many triggers. Ever since we moved out here, he has been going to bars for karaoke 3 or 4 times a week. I voiced my fears about him going out so much and I didn't feel comfortable with him being in that environment. He kept saying I have to trust him, I have to forgive him. Well tonight, he came back from the bar again...and I again told him that he is going out too much. Given our past, it just isn't right.
He then said that maybe we shouldn't be together...I knew right then something was going on. I point blank asked him what was going on and what was making it so easy for him to say that. He told me that he has been talking to a woman he met at the bar for the last two weeks. He likes her, and wants to pursue a relationship but she told him he needed to end it with me first. He says nothing physical has happened, just emotional. I don't believe him. I flushed my engagement ring down the toilet.
He doesn't want to work on our relationship any more. He is too fogged up. I told him he can't go to the bars any more and he can't see her. He said he can't promise anything. I knew right then, it was over. I started to give him the ultimatum, her or me. I felt so weak even asking it. I took it back and said never mind. I won't ask him to make a choice, he did that already when he started talking to this woman about things he shouldn't have been.
He told me he loves me, but not in love and is not attracted to me. He defended her, said she is a nice person :banghead::bsflag: and that I had better not even think about finding her and confronting her. That I need to be an adult and mature about it. That he will go after me for harassment if I do confront her.
This man is a stay at home dad. He has no money, no car, no job. Zero job prospects. He is throwing his family and home away for a woman he has known for two weeks. He admitted the cheating to her, but not the domestic violence.
So that is it...I stayed even though he hit me but if he cheated again (even emotional), I would be done.
If he hasn't slept with her yet, he will be by Tuesday night. It kills me...it kills me that this person that has hurt me so much still has the power to keep doing it, and it is only because I continued to give him the power. lisab is once again heartbroken and I only have myself to blame for staying.
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
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