Hi guys! I would just like opinions on my situation, I don't know what to do...
My husband and I have been married for 2 years now. We both make good money. Our expenses are housing, food, cars, parents and college.....and we save to buy a house in the future. We have a joint account.
Well this is the thing, with what we make it covers everything and then some. But my husband always criticizes on my personal spending...like clothes...or when i buy food out, or anything that doesnt involve him basically. Im not a spender in a big way, im not buying purses or expensive things, but i do buy inexpensive clothes every other month, because i need them.
He always has to make a remark when i buy something though. Like "you ate at __ again" or "remember we are saving, control your spending" "how much did you spend on that?" "5$ here 5$ there accumulates to __$"
If i do decide to buy something expensive like for example, i asked for a a pair of raybans ($150) for my bday....he complied...but with the usual remark " you better wear them often, they were pretty expensive" "this bday you you were really spoiled"
WHAT BOTHERS ME IS:
He is cheap with me, but not with himself. He gave his dad $300 to spend on some flooring for their house, he often shares the costs of beer with his buddies, he pays to participate on a hobby of his, his car is more expensive than mine...and just recently he spent 200 on something else. I NEVER tekk him anything on these expenses, because they dont bother me, he works hard and he has the right to spend whatever left over money on what he enjoys or sees fit.
But he doesnt feel this way about MY expenses...and since im sick of not being able to spend with a peace of mind, i suggested getting separate accounts, so we both contribute and save equally and avoid these arguments...but he threatened me with divorce if i were to open a separate account...
Im getting to a point where i cant take it anymore, i have tried talking to him, and at first he gets it, but then we go back to the same problem again....What should i do? :(
My husband and I have been married for 2 years now. We both make good money. Our expenses are housing, food, cars, parents and college.....and we save to buy a house in the future. We have a joint account.
Well this is the thing, with what we make it covers everything and then some. But my husband always criticizes on my personal spending...like clothes...or when i buy food out, or anything that doesnt involve him basically. Im not a spender in a big way, im not buying purses or expensive things, but i do buy inexpensive clothes every other month, because i need them.
He always has to make a remark when i buy something though. Like "you ate at __ again" or "remember we are saving, control your spending" "how much did you spend on that?" "5$ here 5$ there accumulates to __$"
If i do decide to buy something expensive like for example, i asked for a a pair of raybans ($150) for my bday....he complied...but with the usual remark " you better wear them often, they were pretty expensive" "this bday you you were really spoiled"
WHAT BOTHERS ME IS:
He is cheap with me, but not with himself. He gave his dad $300 to spend on some flooring for their house, he often shares the costs of beer with his buddies, he pays to participate on a hobby of his, his car is more expensive than mine...and just recently he spent 200 on something else. I NEVER tekk him anything on these expenses, because they dont bother me, he works hard and he has the right to spend whatever left over money on what he enjoys or sees fit.
But he doesnt feel this way about MY expenses...and since im sick of not being able to spend with a peace of mind, i suggested getting separate accounts, so we both contribute and save equally and avoid these arguments...but he threatened me with divorce if i were to open a separate account...
Im getting to a point where i cant take it anymore, i have tried talking to him, and at first he gets it, but then we go back to the same problem again....What should i do? :(
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