I recently signed into my fb despite having deactivated for well over 2 years. I think it's important to note that I used to have very ****ty self esteem during sixth form. I would never wear my hair nicely, I'd just put it into a ponytail or bun and be done with it. Makeup was not something I bothered with, other than the occasional liner/mascara when I felt like bothering sometimes. Consequently, I got no attention from guys. They all claimed to love my personality blah blah but obviously because I didn't go clubbing with them, or put extensive effort into my appearance like the other girls, I was a no go.
I'm now approaching my second year in uni. I'm a completely different person in terms of looks. I've sorted my brows out lol, I've figured out the whole makeup thing and I'm generally more attractive. I've gauged this from how much attention I've gotten since starting uni compared to sixth form/school and the shock of girls I've seen out and about since leaving school.
Okay, that's the background information. During sixth form I had a weird/awkward crush/uncomfortable feeling around this guy in my Maths A-level class. He was good looking as **** and I was... me. He used to ask me to sit next to him and I'd refuse. It's so dumb but back then I was so shy around him, I made a kind of "game" out of my discomfort. I'd walk into the room and say "not today" or something jokey about not sitting next to him. He'd laugh but seem down about it. Looking back I must have made him feel unworthy of my attention or something ridiculous. Whenever I did sit next to him, he'd be all smiley and friendly etc despite my hideous appearance. I always thought he was too good looking for me.
Anyway, I logged into fb and uploaded a couple of new pictures of myself and with friends etc. 5 minutes later, he popped up on chat out of nowhere. After 3 years of 0 contact, he started asking how I was, what I was doing etc. He eventually said "Jesus Christ, I can't believe how much you've changed!" I didn't know what to say so I laughed and asked "good or bad? lol" He said "good" and I felt myself beaming. He's in Bristol and I'm in London. After several hours of talking, he asked for my number and we've been texting since. He's showing genuine interest in what I'm doing in life and vice versa. Yesterday, after a few days of texting he said we should talk on the phone instead. I suddenly felt really shy and said I had to revise. I don't know if he's actually interested and I don't want to get my hopes up.
Part of me thinks that I'm just loving the attention because it makes the "past" me feel like she's got her own back? If that makes any sense? I'm still physically attracted to him, he's grown his beard and has gained a bit of mass. He hasn't changed at personality wise and he's mentioned that he hasn't got a girlfriend out of nowhere. I'm just worried that I'm focusing on him because it makes me subconsciously feel worthy and actually pretty because I was once deemed unattractive?
Can any girls relate? What do guys think of this?
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