I'm new to this. My husband decided to leave me and our 7 month old baby girl about 1.5 months ago. He also told me he was not in love with me anymore. We have been married for 4.5 years and will be together total for 9.5 years.
Him leaving was not a complete shock. Our marriage has been really rocky for the past 1.5 years. And, I actually wanted to leave him about 3 months ago because of the same problems but did not have the heart to do it because of our baby. But needless to say, I am devastated that he decided to leave us. I cry almost everyday and this is all I think about all day long.
I have never begged him to come back. I've only asked him if he'd be willing to work on our marriage. He said he did not want to do that right now, that he needed his space, is confused, and he needed to do some soul searching. He did agree to go to marriage counseling in May (only because I get some free sessions through my employer). But he said he could not make any promises about getting back together again and he reminded me he was not in love with me anymore. This was really tough to hear. I love him, but not sure if I'm completely madly in love with him either like I once was. I know deep down we both love each other but our feelings have been clouded because of all the fighting that has been going on up until he left.
If there are husbands out there that can give me some insight on what my husband may be thinking at this time, I would really really appreciate it.
I do hope that there will be a reconciliation down the road for us. I know our problems are fixable (no infedility issues, just resentment, anger, fighting issues). I put myself through therapy and have been going for about a month now. He also refused to go to one of my sessions although my therapist really wanted to talk to him about what exactly made him want to leave me.
We are in contact but only because of him wanting to see our baby. Other than that, there is no contact between us. Although at the beggining I was texting him and calling him alot. But that only lasted for about 2 weeks until I realized it was getting me no where. He is also very open to speaking with certain of my family members who have also been in a similar situation in their marriage.
Any husbands out there with some insight on what he may be thinking?
Him leaving was not a complete shock. Our marriage has been really rocky for the past 1.5 years. And, I actually wanted to leave him about 3 months ago because of the same problems but did not have the heart to do it because of our baby. But needless to say, I am devastated that he decided to leave us. I cry almost everyday and this is all I think about all day long.
I have never begged him to come back. I've only asked him if he'd be willing to work on our marriage. He said he did not want to do that right now, that he needed his space, is confused, and he needed to do some soul searching. He did agree to go to marriage counseling in May (only because I get some free sessions through my employer). But he said he could not make any promises about getting back together again and he reminded me he was not in love with me anymore. This was really tough to hear. I love him, but not sure if I'm completely madly in love with him either like I once was. I know deep down we both love each other but our feelings have been clouded because of all the fighting that has been going on up until he left.
If there are husbands out there that can give me some insight on what my husband may be thinking at this time, I would really really appreciate it.
I do hope that there will be a reconciliation down the road for us. I know our problems are fixable (no infedility issues, just resentment, anger, fighting issues). I put myself through therapy and have been going for about a month now. He also refused to go to one of my sessions although my therapist really wanted to talk to him about what exactly made him want to leave me.
We are in contact but only because of him wanting to see our baby. Other than that, there is no contact between us. Although at the beggining I was texting him and calling him alot. But that only lasted for about 2 weeks until I realized it was getting me no where. He is also very open to speaking with certain of my family members who have also been in a similar situation in their marriage.
Any husbands out there with some insight on what he may be thinking?
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