Hello!
I've been lurking for a few weeks, and decided to register. I don't have a complaint or problem per se, but I figured I should introduce myself. :)
My husband and I are in our late 20's. We've been married for 3 years, together for 7. So we're a couple of young'ins just starting out together. Our biggest issue is communication, but we've made HUGE strides in it already.
I originally came to TAM because I was looking for ways to strengthen our marriage as he transitioned to third shift. We've done third shift before and it nearly killed our relationship. At that time, there were many things left unsaid, and negative emotions boiling under the surface. Neither one of us knew how to communicate effectively.
We spent about 6 months in marriage counseling and it helped tremendously. I used to be so ashamed of that. I felt like people would judge me, and our relationship because we were already in counseling so soon after the wedding (18 months after we got married, to be more specific). However, as time goes on and we see how much it has helped us, I find I am less and less ashamed. It is what it is.
Anyways, this time, we are determined to nurture our marriage and to go out of our way to make time for each other. It's not that we didn't nurture it before, but we never really made nurturing our marriage a priority, and we fell into a bit of a slump.
Initially when finding out he was moving to third shift, I was horrified. But I think it'll be good for us. Giving us both some perspective. Getting me to be more independent, and finding ways to make my husband feel as loved as I feel. There is incentive to find more effective ways to communicate with one another, because time is so short when we're together.
It's only been a short time since the shift change, so I guess we'll see how I feel as time passes.
Thanks for listening!
I've been lurking for a few weeks, and decided to register. I don't have a complaint or problem per se, but I figured I should introduce myself. :)
My husband and I are in our late 20's. We've been married for 3 years, together for 7. So we're a couple of young'ins just starting out together. Our biggest issue is communication, but we've made HUGE strides in it already.
I originally came to TAM because I was looking for ways to strengthen our marriage as he transitioned to third shift. We've done third shift before and it nearly killed our relationship. At that time, there were many things left unsaid, and negative emotions boiling under the surface. Neither one of us knew how to communicate effectively.
We spent about 6 months in marriage counseling and it helped tremendously. I used to be so ashamed of that. I felt like people would judge me, and our relationship because we were already in counseling so soon after the wedding (18 months after we got married, to be more specific). However, as time goes on and we see how much it has helped us, I find I am less and less ashamed. It is what it is.
Anyways, this time, we are determined to nurture our marriage and to go out of our way to make time for each other. It's not that we didn't nurture it before, but we never really made nurturing our marriage a priority, and we fell into a bit of a slump.
Initially when finding out he was moving to third shift, I was horrified. But I think it'll be good for us. Giving us both some perspective. Getting me to be more independent, and finding ways to make my husband feel as loved as I feel. There is incentive to find more effective ways to communicate with one another, because time is so short when we're together.
It's only been a short time since the shift change, so I guess we'll see how I feel as time passes.
Thanks for listening!
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