I couldn't take it anymore. I get screamed at for eating a few mini donuts....I bought them and I didn't eat them all......so I take my punishment......seems pathetic to get that upset over freakin donuts but this is how our relationship was...
I made a boundary that she is to have zero contact with a certain individual due to her telling a lie, had I known what the lie was, I would of dumped her like yesterday's garbage. I find out that she's facebook friends with this tool, so I confront her.
"Um why do you show up on this tool's friends list? You know I find this to be inappropriate and disrespectful to me"
"Are you stalking me? I have you blocked. And no he and I aren't friends, its a facebook glitch."
Me pulling it up on my phone, "yeah right here, you show up on his friends list, and I seriously doubt this is just a random glitch. You are my wife, and you've lied to me several times, and I have to hold you accountable. You chose to lie to me about this guy, I had to deal with the fall out from it, and I don't want reminded of the lie."
"HE AND ARE ARE NOT FRIENDS!!! GET OVER YOURSELF AND QUIT STALKING ME!!! I AM NOT LYING!!! YOU ARE JUST LOOKING FOR SOMETHING TO PICK A FIGHT ABOUT!!!!"
"You seem pretty defensive there, usually a defense mechanism when someone is caught in a lie."
"FINE. I'M DELETING MY FACEBOOK!!!!"
"If its just a glitch, show me your friends list and prove me wrong, if I'm wrong, I'm wrong. Again I'm not the one who chose to lie in the past and a few times since. You must be held accountable."
"NO. I'M FU**ING DONE WITH THIS!! I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU'RE DOING THIS!!"
It ends with me getting a hotel room as she became more and more hostile. I made a call to my attorney to file the papers. She moved out over the weekend. I am an emotional trainwreck but I'm confused as to why. We've been a mess since the day we got married. Its been a chronic rollercoaster ride. I read NMMNG and started killing off the "nice guy" in me.
I guess I got tired of being treated like a doormat and taken advantage of. She was thankful of all the ways I rescued her, then gradually became entitled. That's not love. This is manipulation, blame shifting, and dishonesty.
So here I am. She did leave an apology letter and left quite a bit of her stuff behind. I don't know if this was a mere oversight or she intends to have a chance encounter.
God give me the strength
I made a boundary that she is to have zero contact with a certain individual due to her telling a lie, had I known what the lie was, I would of dumped her like yesterday's garbage. I find out that she's facebook friends with this tool, so I confront her.
"Um why do you show up on this tool's friends list? You know I find this to be inappropriate and disrespectful to me"
"Are you stalking me? I have you blocked. And no he and I aren't friends, its a facebook glitch."
Me pulling it up on my phone, "yeah right here, you show up on his friends list, and I seriously doubt this is just a random glitch. You are my wife, and you've lied to me several times, and I have to hold you accountable. You chose to lie to me about this guy, I had to deal with the fall out from it, and I don't want reminded of the lie."
"HE AND ARE ARE NOT FRIENDS!!! GET OVER YOURSELF AND QUIT STALKING ME!!! I AM NOT LYING!!! YOU ARE JUST LOOKING FOR SOMETHING TO PICK A FIGHT ABOUT!!!!"
"You seem pretty defensive there, usually a defense mechanism when someone is caught in a lie."
"FINE. I'M DELETING MY FACEBOOK!!!!"
"If its just a glitch, show me your friends list and prove me wrong, if I'm wrong, I'm wrong. Again I'm not the one who chose to lie in the past and a few times since. You must be held accountable."
"NO. I'M FU**ING DONE WITH THIS!! I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU'RE DOING THIS!!"
It ends with me getting a hotel room as she became more and more hostile. I made a call to my attorney to file the papers. She moved out over the weekend. I am an emotional trainwreck but I'm confused as to why. We've been a mess since the day we got married. Its been a chronic rollercoaster ride. I read NMMNG and started killing off the "nice guy" in me.
I guess I got tired of being treated like a doormat and taken advantage of. She was thankful of all the ways I rescued her, then gradually became entitled. That's not love. This is manipulation, blame shifting, and dishonesty.
So here I am. She did leave an apology letter and left quite a bit of her stuff behind. I don't know if this was a mere oversight or she intends to have a chance encounter.
God give me the strength
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