Just a random post really, in a pretty low place at the moment.
I've just turned 21, I've had 2 girlfriends in my entire life (both relationships only lasted a month or two), a lot of romantic interests which have fell apart before they've begun really, for multiple reasons. (Most of which I started talking to through Facebook)
The reason I'm in a low place is because of the following:
- I feel like everyone I know is in a relationship, or is interested in somebody else, and then there's me who feels like I've exhausted all of my romantic interests and cannot see myself meeting anyone new any time soon.
- Which leads to my next point; I don't go out drinking, in fact I hate night clubs and all of that crap, I am currently at uni (My final 2 and a half months of it), I don't really have any close outgoing friends, so my options of going out and socialising are so restricted.
- I'm an introvert, therefore I do like being alone a lot of the time, and need to "recharge" from socialising a lot.
- I get told that I'm good looking, by a lot of people, (I don't particularly see it myself), but with people saying that I can only assume that my problem is my personality, which is kind of a killer for my self esteem.
- I am not the most confident person in the world, I can talk to people (including girls), but I cannot approach new people because it is foreign to me.
- Finally, I consider myself to be a hopeless romantic, I always feel the need to have someone in my life, and if there isn't someone I worry about being alone. I'm not a horrible person either, I wouldn't dream of treating a girl in a bad way at all, so I'm really confused as to where I'm going wrong here.
Basically I just feel like the world is moving on without me, everyone is settling down, many of my friends are getting pregnant, going into relationships or already in them with someone they've been with for years. And then there's me, in the same place I was like 4 years ago.
Is anyone else the same? And does anybody have any advice on what I should do? I know it's as if I'm acting as if being with a girl is a necessity, I know it isn't, but I just feel like time is working against me here
I've just turned 21, I've had 2 girlfriends in my entire life (both relationships only lasted a month or two), a lot of romantic interests which have fell apart before they've begun really, for multiple reasons. (Most of which I started talking to through Facebook)
The reason I'm in a low place is because of the following:
- I feel like everyone I know is in a relationship, or is interested in somebody else, and then there's me who feels like I've exhausted all of my romantic interests and cannot see myself meeting anyone new any time soon.
- Which leads to my next point; I don't go out drinking, in fact I hate night clubs and all of that crap, I am currently at uni (My final 2 and a half months of it), I don't really have any close outgoing friends, so my options of going out and socialising are so restricted.
- I'm an introvert, therefore I do like being alone a lot of the time, and need to "recharge" from socialising a lot.
- I get told that I'm good looking, by a lot of people, (I don't particularly see it myself), but with people saying that I can only assume that my problem is my personality, which is kind of a killer for my self esteem.
- I am not the most confident person in the world, I can talk to people (including girls), but I cannot approach new people because it is foreign to me.
- Finally, I consider myself to be a hopeless romantic, I always feel the need to have someone in my life, and if there isn't someone I worry about being alone. I'm not a horrible person either, I wouldn't dream of treating a girl in a bad way at all, so I'm really confused as to where I'm going wrong here.
Basically I just feel like the world is moving on without me, everyone is settling down, many of my friends are getting pregnant, going into relationships or already in them with someone they've been with for years. And then there's me, in the same place I was like 4 years ago.
Is anyone else the same? And does anybody have any advice on what I should do? I know it's as if I'm acting as if being with a girl is a necessity, I know it isn't, but I just feel like time is working against me here
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