My husband is a binge drinker and my parents are giving me an ultimatum.

Hi. I have been married for 2 years and basically from day one my husband has had a problem with binge drinking. He has embarrassed me countless times in front of friends and family, he has put our family in many difficult situations while on a binge, and for many years he has always left a bad impression on my family. Obviously I have made the mistake of running to my family about these issues and in turn they have developed a very deep rooted resentment for him. Things have been getting rather crazy with him and I, again, and my parents are stepping in. They are telling me to leave him, divorce him, and to move on. They think that he takes me for granted and that i deserve and can do better than him, who they now simply call "the Loser". They keep telling me that I need to get out before i end up dead and/or completely broken. Right now I am staying with my parents. They are telling me that if i go back to him that they never want to see me or him again . Since they have given me this ultimatum, my husband and I have began marriage counseling with out pastor and my husband has come to terms that he has a drinking problem and is willing to seek professional help for it.

My questions are these: should i have faith in my marriage and hope that it will get better once he gets the help that he needs? will him seeking professional help even make a difference or am i forever doomed to be the wife of an alcoholic? are my parents right or wrong for giving me that ultimatum? how do i approach this situation?

on one hand i do not want to give up on my marriage, but on the other hand i cannot help but agree with my parents when they say that i deserve better.

Any perspective will help. Thanks in advance.

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