Wives of husbands with ED

Hi, y'all! I'm posting here, because I just want to hear from other wives who are feeling destroyed by their husbands rejecting them because of ED.:( Yes, their egos are so very fragile! We must not pressure them. We must not make more money than them, or less money - lest they feel unmanly and unappreciated. Yes, I know it affects men to the point that they want nothing that even remotely leads to what MIGHT be a failure of their manhood ... like kissing. Or compliments. Or caring. And the little blue pills, and the like - ain't no dinner and a show, let me tell you! The commercials make me so angry ... it would seem that every other man still WANTS to make love, despite a lil' ole problem like ED! My hubby said the pills just make him hard, they don't turn him on. I asked what turns him on? Nothing, he said. And by the way, it is my understanding that the ability to get an erection without the pills indicates the problem may be psychological, rather than purely physical? So how would this make you feel, as a wife? A ball-breaking b*tch? Believe me - as angry as I may sound, I have been kind, loving, AFFECTIONATE and understanding towards my husband over the years - yes years. I've been patient, no pressure. Light and fluffy and happy. I've tried everything - nothing works. The last time we made love - I said "Can we PLEASE just do this more?" The first word out of his mouth was "But ..." And that was over 6 months ago. I've even told him, many times, that I need love, affection and warmth, not just orgasms. I can't hug myself. I have so much self-doubt as to my judgement - where did I go wrong? And I feel like I don't trust him with my feelings, because he is so wrapped up in himself. And I feel like I can't express myself, because he has his own agenda. So - this was just a rant, after all, but I would really appreciate hearing from other WOMEN on how to get through this. I just joined, this is my first post on Talkaboutmarriage, and you can see my "screen name" is how I feel my husband sees me.

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