| Some background: I have been reading this forum and lurking for the past several years and I have read MMSP. I really don't have a question for you guys. I just need a place to vent and a sounding board. Prior to marriage, my wife was the most pleasant woman to be around. I could easily say that my day was even more fulfilling and satisfying with her by my side. Oh my, how things have changed. I do have to say that while we were dating, there was a single warning sign. She treated and spoke to her parents like they were worthless pieces of ****. I told myself that maybe this was just due to her parents giving her a poor childhood and let it pass. I mean, she has tons of friends and she treats them pleasantly enough. Never again will I make this mistake. Fast forward 5 years into our marriage. This happy, pleasant, smart, laid back, loving woman now spews venom at me on a daily basis. Simple criticism given to me in an adult manner does not upset me. But, this is not what I am receiving. What I am getting is literally rage like without an ounce of respect towards me as a fellow human. I would not speak to my enemies the way she speaks to me. Get my drift? It's not just the words and respect, her face contorts and body language also change during these bits of rage. It's not very attractive to say the least. What brings on these fits of rage you might ask? I forget to pickup a glass off the table while cleaning, or fold a towel improperly, forget to put a clothing item in a hamper, or politely disagreeing with her opinion. She tries to work on the problem and forces herself to be a nicer person, however she eventually relapses and talks to me like **** in 24-48 hours. Then gets upset when she isn't rewarded for treating me humanly for the past day. She doesn't realize that a single outburst takes me weeks to recover from. I do not deserve this rage. I am in the only income and I am extremely successful and highly paid. I am a loving and caring man who takes care of his family. I was already following MMSP rules prior to reading the book, as these same thought processes I used in the dating world prior to marriage. I work out 4-5 days a week for the past 6 years. I am very fit and keep getting fitter and more attractive each year. Between her fits of rage, my wife unsolicitedly comments on how hot I am. Her physical attraction to me doesn't get me sex. When I stand up for myself and ask her politely to treat me as you would treat another human, it just causes more disrespect. We have gone to MC and it doesn't seem to help…. Work is stressful, home is stressful, where do I go? | |||
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