| Hello All- First time posting on here. I thought I would share this event in my life with several strangers to hopefully get an honest opinion on this. Let me start from the beginning.. So there was a girl who I had a crush on in HS several years back, who I recently re-connected with on FB. Immediately after becoming 'friends' on FB she said something flirty to me, so we began talking. A few days later, we started dating. It was wonderful, we connected so well..Right off the bat, there was a strong chemistry between both of us and it was a chemistry which we both agreed on. She told me she was experiencing feelings which she hadn't felt in years, that she was looking forward to our future together etc etc (lots of heartfelt words) We were very attracted to each other, both mentally and physically. When we went out, it was just me and her and whatever we did, was cool because it wasn't about where we were but who we were with. It was very sexual from the beginning, and that was amazing as well so i'm sure you're wondering what happens next... Well, 2 weeks ago, i sensed some distance from her. We always texted each other alot during the week and communication was really good with us but in this particular week, it just a bit lacking. For example, she was very slow to respond to text messages whereas before, it was an all day/night thing (when we weren't together) That of itself isn't a huge deal and I didn't think much of it but I did notice. So on that Wednesday, she tells me she was going to get a test done for tissue samples (possible cancer?) I hear from her later that night and she tells me that, she has to get more tests done but that there are no worries. So I go and see her the next day, and everything was fine. She was somewhat in a bad mood because of something with one of her friends but other then that, she was okay. We made plans for that saturday at 12:30 and that was it. Saturday comes rolling around and at 11:30 she texts me that she isnt sure if we should be dating anymore because of pressure she is experiencing and cannot handle things that are going on with her, and that there were things i 'didnt know'.. huh? So I call her and she doesnt answer. sent a txt, no response. She lives 2 minutes away from me, so im like screw it, i just show up. She doesn't answer the door. Im beyond confused here, so i get on FB, and ask her wtf was going on and she tells me that she has cancer and cant deal with anything and has been crying all morning. So immediately ask her if I can just talk to her because obviously i was concerned. She tells me no, that it wasn;t a good time because jake her son, was sleeping on the couch..a few minutes later she blocks me on FB..okay? So she texts me later that night saying I was nothing but good to her and that she 'doesnt know what she wants' I am kind of big on closure, and it definitely was going that direction. So I told her i was confused about what was happening but even more concerned about what she told me. I asked her to call me and she never did. I tried to call her later in the week and it turns out she has now blocked my calls. wow! Keep in mind, I treated her and her son with the utmost respect, gave her a great birthday and did the things a good BF should be doing. Its been almost 2 weeks and i havent heard from her. I really dont even know if this whole cancer thing was even true. I did catch her in a lie early on with her, so maybe she was just using it as an excuse? Here's the thing here: She never really broke up with me. She completely cut all ties from me and even took off some of my friends on FB, I really dont understand it. I never did her any wrong, I was a total gentlemen with her, we never argued or anything. I *know* she was into me at one time so if she lost interest, why couldnt she break up with me? Sorry, i dont consider the 'i dont know what i want' as a break up. What eats at me even worse, is how she cut all ties to me, As if i did something wrong? One of the last things she said to me was i was nothing but good to her, and she knows it. Well, im obviously wondering what happened here, so one of my friends tells me that she posted some photos of one of her guy friends (maybe a new bf?) out at the movies with her son and two other young girls (prob his kids) Did she seriously just use cancer as an excuse to stop talking to me? If she really had something this serious, I dont imagine she would go as far as cutting me off from her life. My heart tells me it was an excuse, but whats killing me is the fact that she gave me no closure, and its like i am completely dead to her now. Ive been dumped before, I get it. At least then you know whats happened, but i am at a total mystery as to whats happened here. Ive really been down and depressed about this, probably because of the way this all happened. I asked her to at least send me an email or something telling me what was going on with her, and she has never answered. Its absolutely pathetic and has ripped my heart to shreds. If she called me and ended it at least that would be something..This is the worst scenario possible because there are so many question marks about what happened. Did she seriously use cancer as an excuse or if she does have something serious, why cut my out of y our life ? Im obviously not talking to her at all now and am wondering if i will ever hear from her again. Since the time, she told me this form now, I have left her about 3 voicemails and several texts. Maybe in the beginning I did go overboard with trying to contact her, but i was obviously worried and confused. before she blocked my number, I didnt contact her for like 5 days because i was hoping to hear from her. Never happened. I eventually tried calling her on the weekend and then she blocked my calls. Wow.. As i said before, Im still licking my wounds from this. Its prob one of the worst things someone has done to me in terms of ending a relationship. Im a good person, and feel she should of given me some type of closure but in the end, she left me on a hook like some worm. .. The ONLY thing i can of that i did wrong, was texting her alot in the beginning . If you're significant other tells you that they have cancer, wouldn't you want to talk to them? man, this sucks...obviously im trying to move on here, but im still wondering what happened also.. I appreciate any advice/feedback/thoughts ideas and please spare me any insults or condescending remarks. Im a 35 year old guy whos been through lots of different relationships and breakups, but this one had to be one of the most puzzling.. | |||
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