Pages

Search blog and web

Am I weird for not wanting a boyfriend at 19?

I'm 19 and in my first year at uni, and I've never had a boyfriend before or during uni (or even been on a date, though I've been asked out quite a few times). I've never slept with anyone either. I just don't see the point of short-term stuff. It seems like a waste of time.

It's not that I'm asexual (if anything it's the other way around, and I've been really tempted to go back with guys in clubs a few times). I don't buy into that "purity" crap either and don't care if someone calls me a slag, but on the other hand I just don't want to sleep with/commit myself to someone I'm going to end up losing in a couple of years anyway. FWB is not something I want to try either.

I just don't feel like I want to commit myself emotionally to someone who doesn't feel like they're really, really into me. Hardly anyone I know at uni is in a serious relationship or thinks they're going to stay with their partner after graduating. There's a definite party culture at my uni which doesn't help. Even male friends who aren't "lads" are often not really sure about their girlfriends and don't see a future with them, but stay with them just for the sex.

I'd rather settle down, get a proper job, and grow into a mature adult before finding a partner who will stick with me for life, but is this a little weird? Should I get some experience dating/being in a relationship at uni first? A lot of friends seem to think it's strange when I tell them I've never had a boyfriend before, but I just haven't found anyone I liked enough to be with yet.




ifttt
Put the internet to work for you. via Personal Recipe 2629979

No comments:

Post a Comment