Blindsided by my wife, she doesn't love me nor want me. She wants a divorce

Not sure why i'm posting here. Only that I guess maybe it makes me feel better to get it out and after seeing other similar posts I guess I am not alone. The day before yesterday she tells me that she doesnt love me anymore. We have been together for about 10 years and I have always loved her with all my heart. She gives me no reasoning, there is no specific thing that she sites and swears that there is nobody else neither emotionally influencing her nor physically. She has apparently been feeling this way for several years although I dont know how many as she will not tell me. We have a child together (under 6) who is my world. I cant stand the thought of our family being destroyed yet that is what she is doing. We have not had a great sex life in some time as she has pulled away and become more and more distant. She tried every now and then, lets say considerably less than once a month and I have been patient over the last few years and willing to accept that its just an area of our relationship that needed some work. Work I have been willing to do and continue. She has never come out and openly said anything about not being attracted to me or not caring for me. Quite the opposite was previously holding true we have built a great life together and for every other aspect we have been the perfect partnership. But alas the last couple of years the physical aspect admitidly had some issues. My attraction, my feelings, and my desire for her has never wavered, while hers has. My presumtion was that as most couples experience pressures of daily life, work stress, and stress of raising a child and taking care of the house hold was the primay culprit. This is based on discussions which I thought were open and honest. Now she says that she has felt nothing for me for years, but not how many. She apparently has had to force herself to be intimate the last several times and felt nothing for me. She says she has worked on this issue of not being in love with for last few years, yet she has never discussed this with me. Her lack of honesty about what she might have been feeling is just as hurtful as the rest of what she is now telling me. I feel that if nothing more and even if she truly doesnt love me or want at the very minimum I have earned a right to complete honesty in my relationship. Of course I also know that she could not have possiblely "worked" on anything because in any relationship if something is to be "worked on then it would require an open honest dialog and both people to be participating. I dont believe you can work on somethign and keep the other person shut out and in the dark. So I cant accept that as a truthful or serious attempt to fix anything. I dont believe its me or at least I cant imagine it. I am and always have been supporting, attentive but not overbearing, affectionate but not constricting. I support my family and enjoy a realtively comfortable amount of success. I am a good father and good partner and at the risk of sounding too high up on my self I know that for most woman I would be a very good catch or at least so I have been told. In fact she said this to me a she was telling she doesnt love and doest want to be with me. She said she doesnt know what's wrong with her and that she has what every woman would die to have but yet she cant feel anything for me anymore and doesnt care or want to be with me. She had a tough upbringing with men in her childhood with regard to fidelity and it appears to me now that she never dealt with her own emotional issues that stem from all of this creating a pattern of distrust for men in general. I say this because it seems that way based on whats coming out now. I have never had any emotional issues nor baggage nor am I disrespecful to my wife in any way. Of course I can get angry as anyone else can but generally speaking I am a pretty level headed, fairly successful, younger guy (40 ish, yes I said I younger so what?LOL) with a good sense of humor. I believe I am also an attractive guy so no issues ever with regard to how I feel about myself. I am trying my best to hold it together for my child and what might be left of my family. I have offered and said that if this is what you want I will accept and still do what I can to ensure you make a good living for yourself. Our businesses are intertwined and she has relied on me to me the one who drives her business with respect to keeping the clients coming. Because of this I realize that I cant simply pull the plug on what I do for her and will have to continue to do it until she can learn that aspect of her own business. I fear that not only will I be losing my family but in her unstable mind right now she will turn it into a disastorous fist fight squandering our savings on attorney's who will be the only winners in the end while my child loses. I hope that if the end does come which is seems is inevitable now that she can hold her composure to keep it amicable. As difficult as it is and devestatingly hurtful as it is to me right now I have maintained my composure an d keep trying to keep it from getting horiddly nasty. I can only hope that I can remain strong and the she can be stable to end it amicably enough to protect my child and whatever ever might be left of my broken family after all this is said and done. Since she has given no sign or incling of wanting to be with me and work it out I see no sign of hope or light at the end of the tunnel when it comes to us staying together. All that I fought for and worked for over a decade is crumbling down and there isnt much I can do about... Not sure what writing any of them above will or has acomplished, but there it is....maybe someone else's insight or words might bring some comfort or direction? Maybe it wont..right now I am lost and doing all I can to hold it together without being angry and screaming all for the sake of my child who I have to put first before my own emotional hurt or heartbreak. Posted via Mobile Device

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