| As it was my birthday recently I did a bit philosophizing on where I am in life and how things are going. The following will be a post from a foreveralone guy who´s relationship status can only be described as "hoping for a miracle". I would like some feedback, particularly from girls but also guys. Here goes: I am a 24 year old male and I am the ultimate in virginity. I have never: - Slept with a girl - Kissed a girl - Held hands - Went out with a girl or held hands with one - Flirted with a girl (or if she was flirting with me, I was ignorant of it) Long story short: I have never done anything at all with a female, zero, zilch. In addition to that I don´t really have any friends. I recently moved to London and haven´t really built up a social circle so I don´t have people to go out with. I get along with people just fine and I suppose I am not completely without a sense of humor but I am no good at taking things further than that and this applies very much so when talking to girls. As I virtually skipped the entire party/social phase of both high school and university, I never learned the social skills that most people are equipped with. I feel uncomfortable in pubs and other places where there´s loud music and a lot of alcohol. Not that I am a horrible conversationalist overall (though I do have my troubles with it), its that particularly in social settings and particularly when talking to a girl that my conversation skills get worse and worse. On the other hand I have little trouble talking to people, men or women, at work. Since I was a teenager I constantly kept thinking that "I´ll get a girlfriend/laid/a kiss" when I reach 16 or 18. Then when I reached 18 I thought it would happen at university. 3 years of that went by and I thought that its sure to happen when I start work. Well here I am and I´m no closer to getting a kiss or a date than when the cycle started 10 years ago. Other than that life is fine. I´ve got a nice City/Canary Wharf type job and I am tall and quite muscular (as I love weightlifting) so I´d like to think that at least some girl might consider me as a potential mate (in any meaning of that word). As for improving my "game" with women, I have read some of the works of Carlos Xuma as well as The Game so I am trying to better myself in this area, however I do feel that I other guys who have had normal social and dating lives have a head start on me. Questions: 1) Girls: is there an age for a guy where for you his megavirginity (as in never done anything like I described) becomes a deal breaker? Not that I would go around advertising my exact status but assuming you knew and of course it would quickly become obvious that I don´t have the slightest clue of what I am doing. Or to phrase the question another way: is there a point at which you expect a guy to at least know the basics of romance/dating/sex and you wouldn´t want to play teacher? 2) Guys: Can you recommend some good convesration/flirting/pickup books to read to help me improve my game? Or any other tips you have to become better at talking to girls. Any general comments (and especially advice) are welcome. | |||
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