Hi:
I just wanted opinions on this. My husband told me when we were dating that he was "in love" with a high school friend when he was in high school but nothing came of it. They were just friends, never dated and she married someone at 18 and moved away.
Fast forward 25 years. We went to a high school reunion of his. I met all his old gang that he had lost touch with and it was nice. But this girl was not there. I did not even think of her at all at the reunion.
Days later though, he tells me that he had asked guys at this reunion where she was, what she was doing and he found out she was divorced and single. He was pretty excited about it too and said he was going to call her. And he did. I tried to be open minded and not alarmed and to support him saying hi at first. But then, they connected on Facebook and would regularly email each other back and forth on the phone. My husband started staying up really late at night on the computer and I found out they were "chatting" on Facebook. And then, he was invited to a bonfire,campout weekend with some of his old friends from high school. He went and of course this girl went to this too. I found out she went when I overlooked his shoulder and saw him chatting with her on Facebook after he got home, telling her all sorts of personal stuff that he has never told me. I was very angry and hurt and he said I was over reacting, that he was just reconnecting with her because she was his "best friend" from high school. About a month or so later we went to a dinner and dance with some of his old friends from high school and she was there and I was introduced to her. We sat at her table with others. A guy friend of my husband started talking with me and told me he felt bad for me because my husband had always had the hots for this girl and couldn't stay away from her before. My husband of course talked with her all evening. He did find out that she had started dating a guy from his old group of friends that night. They had just started seeing each other. We left shortly after that, and my husband vented all the way home about how mad he was that this guy starting dating her and how wrong they were for each other. After that, my husband never chatted or contacted her again.
So, my take on this. I was jealous,hurt and threatened and I always wondered if my husband was pursuing this woman and if he would have had an affair with her. It seemed that way to me.
From time to time, he does ask about her to friends he runs into and asks if she is still going out with that guy.
How would you have handled this?
I just wanted opinions on this. My husband told me when we were dating that he was "in love" with a high school friend when he was in high school but nothing came of it. They were just friends, never dated and she married someone at 18 and moved away.
Fast forward 25 years. We went to a high school reunion of his. I met all his old gang that he had lost touch with and it was nice. But this girl was not there. I did not even think of her at all at the reunion.
Days later though, he tells me that he had asked guys at this reunion where she was, what she was doing and he found out she was divorced and single. He was pretty excited about it too and said he was going to call her. And he did. I tried to be open minded and not alarmed and to support him saying hi at first. But then, they connected on Facebook and would regularly email each other back and forth on the phone. My husband started staying up really late at night on the computer and I found out they were "chatting" on Facebook. And then, he was invited to a bonfire,campout weekend with some of his old friends from high school. He went and of course this girl went to this too. I found out she went when I overlooked his shoulder and saw him chatting with her on Facebook after he got home, telling her all sorts of personal stuff that he has never told me. I was very angry and hurt and he said I was over reacting, that he was just reconnecting with her because she was his "best friend" from high school. About a month or so later we went to a dinner and dance with some of his old friends from high school and she was there and I was introduced to her. We sat at her table with others. A guy friend of my husband started talking with me and told me he felt bad for me because my husband had always had the hots for this girl and couldn't stay away from her before. My husband of course talked with her all evening. He did find out that she had started dating a guy from his old group of friends that night. They had just started seeing each other. We left shortly after that, and my husband vented all the way home about how mad he was that this guy starting dating her and how wrong they were for each other. After that, my husband never chatted or contacted her again.
So, my take on this. I was jealous,hurt and threatened and I always wondered if my husband was pursuing this woman and if he would have had an affair with her. It seemed that way to me.
From time to time, he does ask about her to friends he runs into and asks if she is still going out with that guy.
How would you have handled this?
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