I've been separated since Feb 2013, divorced since October 2014. I've had several "flings" or attempts at relationships - some almost girlfriends. Just haven't met someone I was really into for long-term. However in May I went on a date with a woman who I dated 20 years ago - crazy to reconnect after so long. I sense the potential for long-term here.
However, there's a problem I've been thinking about that has now bubbled up. I have my kids Friday-Monday morning, every week. That of course in and of itself is awesome - I get quality, full days with my kids (I get every 1st and 3rd Friday off of work, so lots of Q time there). Of course weekends are prime dating days. My folks are happy to take the kids now and then, but they are snowbirds and are gone for 5 months of the year. And also, I don't want to be giving up my time with the kids every weekend, so pawning them off on a babysitter isn't the greatest either.
Got a text from the woman I'm seeing asking when can we see each other. I said how about Thursday? She says "is that my only opportunity? Do you have the kids all weekend?"
The ex wife works in bars so there's no way I can change the schedule - she only works weekends.
There's not a lot I can do obviously - and I guess the answer is, if she's really into me, and it's worth it to her, we'll make it work. But I could understand if she couldn't do it because I'm only available on weekdays and the occasional weekend.
Any advice? From dads, moms, people dating single parents?
My kids are numero uno obviously. But I would like to have a real relationship at some point too. Rock and a hard place.
However, there's a problem I've been thinking about that has now bubbled up. I have my kids Friday-Monday morning, every week. That of course in and of itself is awesome - I get quality, full days with my kids (I get every 1st and 3rd Friday off of work, so lots of Q time there). Of course weekends are prime dating days. My folks are happy to take the kids now and then, but they are snowbirds and are gone for 5 months of the year. And also, I don't want to be giving up my time with the kids every weekend, so pawning them off on a babysitter isn't the greatest either.
Got a text from the woman I'm seeing asking when can we see each other. I said how about Thursday? She says "is that my only opportunity? Do you have the kids all weekend?"
The ex wife works in bars so there's no way I can change the schedule - she only works weekends.
There's not a lot I can do obviously - and I guess the answer is, if she's really into me, and it's worth it to her, we'll make it work. But I could understand if she couldn't do it because I'm only available on weekdays and the occasional weekend.
Any advice? From dads, moms, people dating single parents?
My kids are numero uno obviously. But I would like to have a real relationship at some point too. Rock and a hard place.
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