Hi,
last week I was using my husbands laptop when I stumbled across his internet history ( genuinely stumbled - I wasn't snooping!!). I noticed that he had been looking at porn. No big deal as I know he uses porn. I don't mind as long as he is discrete and doesn't do it in front of me as it's not my thing.
the issue is that it was very clear that he has been looking at GAY porn - videos of men having sex with each other. This shocked me as we have been together for over 10 years and I have never had any inkling that he was into this sort of thing.
I confronted him when he arrived home from work. He was upset and embarrassed by admitted that he had viewed it. It turns out that it is something he looks at from time to time. He can't explain why but he said that he looked at it for the first time many years ago and found it arousing.
He promises me that he has never cheated or actually been with a guy and I do believe him. We have a happy marriage and a normal sex life, in fact, he is usually the one to initiate sex and clearly enjoys our sex life a great deal.
I have no issue with porn in general, nor am I homophobic in any way shape or form, I am just a bit bewildered that my husband would like this sort of thing.
He is constantly reassuring me that he loves me and that he would hate out marriage to be affected. I love him lots too and don't want to leave but I am just so confused.
I have looked on Google ( bad idea, I know!) and there is so much conflicting advice and opinion regarding straight men who view gay porn.
Is he gay/bi and will he eventually leave me or is the porn just something that he enjoys regardless of his sexual orientation. Please can you help me to get some clarity on this so that I can decide what my next steps should be.
last week I was using my husbands laptop when I stumbled across his internet history ( genuinely stumbled - I wasn't snooping!!). I noticed that he had been looking at porn. No big deal as I know he uses porn. I don't mind as long as he is discrete and doesn't do it in front of me as it's not my thing.
the issue is that it was very clear that he has been looking at GAY porn - videos of men having sex with each other. This shocked me as we have been together for over 10 years and I have never had any inkling that he was into this sort of thing.
I confronted him when he arrived home from work. He was upset and embarrassed by admitted that he had viewed it. It turns out that it is something he looks at from time to time. He can't explain why but he said that he looked at it for the first time many years ago and found it arousing.
He promises me that he has never cheated or actually been with a guy and I do believe him. We have a happy marriage and a normal sex life, in fact, he is usually the one to initiate sex and clearly enjoys our sex life a great deal.
I have no issue with porn in general, nor am I homophobic in any way shape or form, I am just a bit bewildered that my husband would like this sort of thing.
He is constantly reassuring me that he loves me and that he would hate out marriage to be affected. I love him lots too and don't want to leave but I am just so confused.
I have looked on Google ( bad idea, I know!) and there is so much conflicting advice and opinion regarding straight men who view gay porn.
Is he gay/bi and will he eventually leave me or is the porn just something that he enjoys regardless of his sexual orientation. Please can you help me to get some clarity on this so that I can decide what my next steps should be.
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