Short story: My wife recognizes that she doesn't sufficiently prioritize our relationship. What can I do to help her do this?
Longer story: We've had HD / LD issues for some time. I've tried every approach known to mankind to resolve this but they've all been largely unsuccessful. We're at breaking point. We had another heart-to-heart this weekend during which she said that if she were to list life's priorities, a relationship with a man wouldn't be high on her list.
She understands that without a good relationship it's difficult to achieve the things that ARE high on her list.....happy kids (we have two), a healthy enivonment at home, a nice house, financial security etc. She understand's this on an intellectual level but she simply doesn't feel it on an emotional leve. She's not emotionally invested in having a healthy, fun, exciting, fulfilling relationship. She get's her fill of love, connection and fulfillment in other ways.
She had a dysfunctional home life growing up, where her parents never got along. She had nothing but dysfunctional relationships with guys until we got together. I was the first person she dated that could be described as stable and secure. Her life's goal (as we're both now starting to understand after many years together), is stability. I want something more passionate and fulfilling than that.
Is this likely to be fixed? How do I help her to make our relationship more of an emotional priority for her?
Longer story: We've had HD / LD issues for some time. I've tried every approach known to mankind to resolve this but they've all been largely unsuccessful. We're at breaking point. We had another heart-to-heart this weekend during which she said that if she were to list life's priorities, a relationship with a man wouldn't be high on her list.
She understands that without a good relationship it's difficult to achieve the things that ARE high on her list.....happy kids (we have two), a healthy enivonment at home, a nice house, financial security etc. She understand's this on an intellectual level but she simply doesn't feel it on an emotional leve. She's not emotionally invested in having a healthy, fun, exciting, fulfilling relationship. She get's her fill of love, connection and fulfillment in other ways.
She had a dysfunctional home life growing up, where her parents never got along. She had nothing but dysfunctional relationships with guys until we got together. I was the first person she dated that could be described as stable and secure. Her life's goal (as we're both now starting to understand after many years together), is stability. I want something more passionate and fulfilling than that.
Is this likely to be fixed? How do I help her to make our relationship more of an emotional priority for her?
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