In my case, we got married 15 years ago, and I was the only one for her and she was the only one for me. We live in the US, relatives in India. After we got married she started a Masters program and the plan was to work, but then she got pregnant.
After we had our first child 10 years ago, she was still a SAHM and she took her mom duties very seriously. This is good, but she began to take me for granted. I should "understand" that she is a mom now and not demand attention. When our second was born, it became worse and I just became a paycheck and a funding source for her life projects (our kids). She was a SAHM at this time as well and became resentful towards me that I wasn't doing my "fair share" of work on the kids. I always wondered, what about the income that you so nicely use - where does that come from? Me of course.
Nowadays, she does not want to do anything just with me. If I want to take her on a date, she wants to bring the kids along. Everything is kids kids kids. Then she accuses me of not loving them enough.
So my question is, did any of you experience the same of losing your wife after the kids arrived? Did you fix the situation, if so how?
After we had our first child 10 years ago, she was still a SAHM and she took her mom duties very seriously. This is good, but she began to take me for granted. I should "understand" that she is a mom now and not demand attention. When our second was born, it became worse and I just became a paycheck and a funding source for her life projects (our kids). She was a SAHM at this time as well and became resentful towards me that I wasn't doing my "fair share" of work on the kids. I always wondered, what about the income that you so nicely use - where does that come from? Me of course.
Nowadays, she does not want to do anything just with me. If I want to take her on a date, she wants to bring the kids along. Everything is kids kids kids. Then she accuses me of not loving them enough.
So my question is, did any of you experience the same of losing your wife after the kids arrived? Did you fix the situation, if so how?
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