Psychological abuse?

this is my first time posting...anywhere. I hope you all will be patient with me as I do not know the etiquette or what to expect. My husband and I, both Christians, have been married for just a few months. We started dating about 1 1/2 years ago. Once our relationship began to get serious, he began doing things, saying things that contradicted each other and caused me pain and confusion. First, it was "I love you" only yo tell me the following day that he did not love me. Later he said he did love me but he was afraid. That happened a few times. Next he broke up with me. Then he wanted to see me, telling me he didn't intend to break up. He was scared. That happened twice. Next, we talked about the future and moving in together - making plans. He later said he wasn't ready. Eventually, we began talking about marriage and living our lives together. We moved in together. After moving in together, he said he didn't remember agreeing that we were on the road to marriage, rather to him it was more of a 'trial run'. He may never want to get married. Well, he asked me to marry him. I said yes. A few weeks later, he said he didn't want to get married. He took it back that day saying he was afraid. Since we've been married , three months now, he has mentioned splitting up on four occasions. Most recently, this past Thursday. What makes this so confusing to me is that he tells me he loves me, tells me he is afraid and broken and that he doesn't know why he does these things. But in even one single conversation, he can go from being fully committed to not knowing. I have told him I don't feel safe. I have told him how confused I am. He began seeing a counselor to see if he can figure out and understand his issues. He went twice before inviting me to join him. We have attended together three times. We have been reading the five live languages and he really seems to be trying. However, he continues to tell me that he is incapable of lovi ng me the way I need to be loved, isn't sure that he even feels those types of deep emotions and tells me he is incapable of creating an intimate connection...sometimes he feels love for me but other times he does not. He thinks maybe only a couple times a week. I am at my breaking point. He says he's sorry he's hurt me, but he continues to do the same things. He told me today that he thinks we should split up because he doesn't want to abuse me. It felt like more manipulation. I don't believe he is intentionally abusing me, but I think he is very aware he does it. Insight? Advice? Help???
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