I've been married for 7 years. I came home from work the Friday of our 7th anniversary weekend to find my husband had moved out. He took all of his clothing. I called him several times and he would not answer. He sent me a text message stating that he did not deserve to be my husband and he couldn't be with me if he couldn't be with me 100%. This left me confused as I believed we were happy. He stated that his kids need him (he has 2 kids from a previous relationship prior to us marrying) and he would have little time for us. I pleaded with him to understand, I would never stand in the way of him being a father to his kids. Although he didn't move back in, he continued to come home from time to time, giving time to himself to sort things out. He's not happy with his employment not being steady. He does contract work that comes and goes, which has left me to be the financial provider the majority of our marriage. I did not mind as this is what marriage is about supporting each other. A month ago, he stopped coming to the house. I finally asked him to come and sit with me to discuss what's going on. This time he said that "his family needs him". I asked him what did mean as I know that he's been working on building a better relationship with his kids. I asked did this include their mother too. He said that this is a "work in progress". I asked him did he have sex with her. He said, "yes something happened". I was livid and asked how could he do this to me when all I've done was love and support him all these years. I feel betrayed and used to pass time while he worked to fix his relationship with her and the kids. We do not have children together because I had endometriosis which resulted in me having a hysterectomy. Knowing that he's been with her, my heart is broken. Although I'm upset, I still love him. In trying to be civil with him, I've noticed he is rude and disrepectful to me. He seems to not even care that I'm hurting . I'm really considering divorce as I do not see him coming back. He said if we are to have a future together then it will present itself, but for now he has decided his pat. I don't know if he thinks I'm going to stick around to see what happens. I am considering advising him that he should pay all the divorce cost since I've paid for everything else during our marriage. Just wondering what others out there think about all this?
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