I have to start out with my husband and I have been married for a year. He is extremely quick to anger, at pretty much everything. I am not trying to make excuses for him, but he is under a huge amount of stress. He has 3 kids (2 adopted with special needs, and a biological daughter who is a bit crazy. All under 11). I have 2 boys. We have all 5 kids in the house every other weekend. This was that weekend and it is too crowded, extremely stressful, and just not fun...we have to stay home because his 9 year old is autistic and screams and screams if we leave the house.
Yesterday we dropped off the 9 year old at his mom's house and decided to go for a short hike with the other 4 kids. It was a lot of fun, but I could tell my husband was still on edge.
My 11 year old son was walking with us while the other kids ran off ahead. It was no big deal. But then my husband wanted the other kids to stop because we came to a road and he yelled for them to stop, and then my son yelled for them to stop (which they did), but my husband physically pushed my son in the back really hard and yelled at him for not running after them.
I was kinda in shock that it happened because he had never touched my children before. I could tell that my son was upset. And then as soon as it happened my husband apologized, but I was crying. I told him he needed to apologize to my son, not me. Then he went up to him in the car and said he was taking everyone out for icecream.
I don't know what to do anymore, but I was thinking about having the kids alternate schedules so that my boys won't be with his kids at the same time anymore. They get along great, but it's clearly toxic for everyone in the house. And I do not want them around my husband when he is stressed out like that.
I really don't know what else to do. I have most of my sentimental belongings packed in a box in case we need to leave quickly. I have told him that he needs counseling, but he just doesn't "have time".
Yesterday we dropped off the 9 year old at his mom's house and decided to go for a short hike with the other 4 kids. It was a lot of fun, but I could tell my husband was still on edge.
My 11 year old son was walking with us while the other kids ran off ahead. It was no big deal. But then my husband wanted the other kids to stop because we came to a road and he yelled for them to stop, and then my son yelled for them to stop (which they did), but my husband physically pushed my son in the back really hard and yelled at him for not running after them.
I was kinda in shock that it happened because he had never touched my children before. I could tell that my son was upset. And then as soon as it happened my husband apologized, but I was crying. I told him he needed to apologize to my son, not me. Then he went up to him in the car and said he was taking everyone out for icecream.
I don't know what to do anymore, but I was thinking about having the kids alternate schedules so that my boys won't be with his kids at the same time anymore. They get along great, but it's clearly toxic for everyone in the house. And I do not want them around my husband when he is stressed out like that.
I really don't know what else to do. I have most of my sentimental belongings packed in a box in case we need to leave quickly. I have told him that he needs counseling, but he just doesn't "have time".
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