Hi everyone. I'm new to this site. I'm having a problem in my marriage and don't know where to turn. A little background info... My husband and I have been together for almost 10 years. We have very different upbringings. He has a large, supportive family. I grew up with an abusive, alcoholic father and a mother who was on hooked on prescription medicos who I haven't seen in 15 years. Because of the physical abuse I was subjected to when my dad was drinking I am very uncomfortable around men who have been drinking. The issue is this... For the first 5 years of our marriage my husband didn't touch a drop of alcohol but now we live closer to his brothers and he's started drinking socially with them (sometimes to excess). I've made it very clear that this is something that makes me uncomfortable. Last weekend we went on a trip with them and he came home blackout drunk and it scared my 8 year old. I was very upset and he told me he wasn't going to drink any m ore after that. Well that lasted less than a week because he drank tonight at a pool party with me there. He didn't get drunk but it still upset me. I feel like I have been blindsided by this because it didn't happen while we were dating or during the early years of our marriage. His drinking would have been a deal breaker for me but now the deal is done. Everyone acts like I'm overreacting and just being a *****. I can't help that it makes me uncomfortable though. How should I deal with this? When I told him I was upset tonight after the pool party he said he felt like he did really well tonight by only having 3 beers and he would have liked to had more. I just feel like that is so inconsiderate.
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