Hi Everyone-
Ok, I'm not going bore everyone with my four page story, because I've already overcome many of the initial obstacles.
Basically my ex and I have been divorced for almost three years. we hated each other for awhile, then dated other people (each of us was in a one year relationship). She made it really hard for my son and I to have a relationship and she said a lot of nasty and partially true or untrue statements about me to him.
Anyhow, for the last 7 months or so, I have completely turned it around with my son and now he has no issues with me, tells me he loves me, enjoys being with me, etc. etc.
Further, I have come to the realization that I am completely in love with my ex-wife and always have been. For the last three months we text back and forth every day, and go out to dinner or a movie once or twice a week. I have been following the strategy...don't be really sappy, needy, etc. I have been exercising everyday and working hard so that I look good and finances are good. I pay her the $1800 child support on time every month and we are really close now. I drop hints about 'wow, that woman is hot, you should help me get with her' and she does the same kind of playful banter. In the midst of a text exchange about a month ago, I said something to the effect of 'you know that I love you' but it wasn't a big sappy thing and I think it was a good seed to plant.
A few weeks ago, my son told me that he would like to see me and the ex get back together again.
So here's my question.
#1. Should I tell my ex that my son said that?
#2. Should I write the big long heartfelt letter or just keep things going as they have been.
I'm inclined to say yes to #1 and no to #2, but I'd like to get the groups opinion.
Thanks!
Steve in Sacramento.
Ok, I'm not going bore everyone with my four page story, because I've already overcome many of the initial obstacles.
Basically my ex and I have been divorced for almost three years. we hated each other for awhile, then dated other people (each of us was in a one year relationship). She made it really hard for my son and I to have a relationship and she said a lot of nasty and partially true or untrue statements about me to him.
Anyhow, for the last 7 months or so, I have completely turned it around with my son and now he has no issues with me, tells me he loves me, enjoys being with me, etc. etc.
Further, I have come to the realization that I am completely in love with my ex-wife and always have been. For the last three months we text back and forth every day, and go out to dinner or a movie once or twice a week. I have been following the strategy...don't be really sappy, needy, etc. I have been exercising everyday and working hard so that I look good and finances are good. I pay her the $1800 child support on time every month and we are really close now. I drop hints about 'wow, that woman is hot, you should help me get with her' and she does the same kind of playful banter. In the midst of a text exchange about a month ago, I said something to the effect of 'you know that I love you' but it wasn't a big sappy thing and I think it was a good seed to plant.
A few weeks ago, my son told me that he would like to see me and the ex get back together again.
So here's my question.
#1. Should I tell my ex that my son said that?
#2. Should I write the big long heartfelt letter or just keep things going as they have been.
I'm inclined to say yes to #1 and no to #2, but I'd like to get the groups opinion.
Thanks!
Steve in Sacramento.
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