OK - I don't know why I care, but my husband is being smothered with love, support, and attention from his family because his wife kicked his butt to the curb.
What they think happened: he was watching too much porn and has been diagnosed with depression, anxiety, and sex addiction.
What really happened: 12 years of a secret life involving: massive porn & masturbation that included live web cam sex, "F" hook up sites, and prostitution with women who look like men.
He's being invited to dinners, given furniture, lots of check-ins to make sure he has everything he needs and other protective behaviors. I married into this state and I have no family here, so they are essentially my family too. No one is calling me to see how I am doing. I read an email that basically says I am not giving him a chance and asked for a divorce too soon.
Why do I feel like the bad guy? Why do I care? I don't even care what his family thinks of me, I just sometimes want to send them an email and tell them exactly what he did. I know it would hurt them and I don't know if it would make me feel better. But I still want to do it at times.
My question to you all: I know it is advised to expose an affair when the couple wants to stay together. What should I do in this situation, if anything? I want them to know their precious little boy is not as innocent as they think he is. MAYBE if they know they can help him break this cycle and he won't repeat this crap with the next girl he dates.
Please talk me off the cliff and tell me to take the high road, like I know I should. Or - tell me that my insane idea is a good one!
Thanks
What they think happened: he was watching too much porn and has been diagnosed with depression, anxiety, and sex addiction.
What really happened: 12 years of a secret life involving: massive porn & masturbation that included live web cam sex, "F" hook up sites, and prostitution with women who look like men.
He's being invited to dinners, given furniture, lots of check-ins to make sure he has everything he needs and other protective behaviors. I married into this state and I have no family here, so they are essentially my family too. No one is calling me to see how I am doing. I read an email that basically says I am not giving him a chance and asked for a divorce too soon.
Why do I feel like the bad guy? Why do I care? I don't even care what his family thinks of me, I just sometimes want to send them an email and tell them exactly what he did. I know it would hurt them and I don't know if it would make me feel better. But I still want to do it at times.
My question to you all: I know it is advised to expose an affair when the couple wants to stay together. What should I do in this situation, if anything? I want them to know their precious little boy is not as innocent as they think he is. MAYBE if they know they can help him break this cycle and he won't repeat this crap with the next girl he dates.
Please talk me off the cliff and tell me to take the high road, like I know I should. Or - tell me that my insane idea is a good one!
Thanks
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