My husband is overweight and has a extremely small penis, and I'm not sure how to proceed in this marriage. We've been married 5.5 years and together for 10. We had a period of separation about 2 years ago, but I ended up agreeing to reconcile because I hated the idea of starting over. Additionally the friendship that we have has always been really good, and he is a kind/positive person, so I decided to just try.
Well I posted last summer about lack of attraction to my husband. At the time, I didn't mention the buried penis thing because I did not know there was a name for it. Since then I have come to realize that this is what he has. He is 380-390 lbs, and has a small penis (very thin and about 3 in when erect), that is also buried. I'll try to post a link to it if that is allowed. Otherwise you can do a quick google search to see an example.
We have had sex maybe 1 time this year, and that was because I gave in because he made me feel bad about not giving him sex. Because of this hidden/buried penis issue, there are very unpleasant smells in his genital area--even after showering. Also, I can barely feel anything when we is inside me, so I don't truly get any pleasure from the sex. As you can guess, this negatively impacts the overall intimacy we have (or lack thereof).
His weight compounded by the penis issue make me contemplate leaving. I love(d) sex and can't imagine having sex only a handful of times for years to come. We are both 33 years old, so I would think we should be having more sex than this.
Is this an issue worth leaving a marriage?
Sometimes one part of me feels it should not be a deal breaker. Then another part of me feels that I want to experience intimacy and pleasure in a marriage or committed relationship, and I doubt that I'll get it from him.
Well I posted last summer about lack of attraction to my husband. At the time, I didn't mention the buried penis thing because I did not know there was a name for it. Since then I have come to realize that this is what he has. He is 380-390 lbs, and has a small penis (very thin and about 3 in when erect), that is also buried. I'll try to post a link to it if that is allowed. Otherwise you can do a quick google search to see an example.
We have had sex maybe 1 time this year, and that was because I gave in because he made me feel bad about not giving him sex. Because of this hidden/buried penis issue, there are very unpleasant smells in his genital area--even after showering. Also, I can barely feel anything when we is inside me, so I don't truly get any pleasure from the sex. As you can guess, this negatively impacts the overall intimacy we have (or lack thereof).
His weight compounded by the penis issue make me contemplate leaving. I love(d) sex and can't imagine having sex only a handful of times for years to come. We are both 33 years old, so I would think we should be having more sex than this.
Is this an issue worth leaving a marriage?
Sometimes one part of me feels it should not be a deal breaker. Then another part of me feels that I want to experience intimacy and pleasure in a marriage or committed relationship, and I doubt that I'll get it from him.
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