My husband is way too much for me. Aside from wanting sex (and not having it all that often lately), he constantly touches me, rubs my arms or head, wants to be hugged, etc. He wants a deeply romantic relationship after almost 25 years. He feels I am disconnected because I am less affectionate or because I do not trust that he is not trying to get me to want sex. But, truly, I feel less attracted to him than ever (things wore off), I love him more as a friend (my best friend) and we raise our four kids together. I really want either an open marriage (so he can turn his huge affection to someone else and I can find someone to whom I am attracted) or a marriage based on a deeper better friendship where he can respect my not feeling a huge surge of desire. I think marriage should handle the ups and downs of wanting sex but if marriage is a sex-required thing, I have one foot out the door. Do many women feel sex is a requirement?
Do you feel guilty if you swat away a husband who makes himself too available?
I feel guilty all the time. But our many drawn out talks lead him to the wrong conclusions (that I am unaffectionate, low libido etc.) I have been deeply honest with him but he seems not to get the message.
Huffington Post had a great article on platonic parenting and I wish we could fall into that model.
Do you feel guilty if you swat away a husband who makes himself too available?
I feel guilty all the time. But our many drawn out talks lead him to the wrong conclusions (that I am unaffectionate, low libido etc.) I have been deeply honest with him but he seems not to get the message.
Huffington Post had a great article on platonic parenting and I wish we could fall into that model.
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