The title of this thread is what was found on my husband's tablet as my son was doing a search on it for a school project. I am not a snooper Our marriage has always been rocky, but hit a boulder a few months ago. We both contemplated a divorce. Once we sat down and had some serious conversation, we agreed that we both have issues to work on and during different talks, we both came clean about some things. He kept prying me about how I always seemed to be aloof or somewhere else in my mind. He assumed I must be cheating. I confessed to him that I had thoughts about somebody else, but never approached the person and I never cheated. I do not have access to this person and he has no clue that I had the "hots" for him I guess you could call it. I totally regretted saying this as it spilled out of my mouth. I knew as harmless as I thought it was, it would be life changing for him. Now he's left feeling paranoid and inadequate and constantly assumin g if I'm behaving differently such as being quiet on a certain day or not at my desk at work when he stops in that I must be cheating. I am not! Seeing these words made me feel like somebody punched me in the gut. I thought we were doing so well in the past month. I was giving him what he wanted, which was more sex and he cut way back on his drinking. The sex thing is also making him suspicious. He had accused me in the past of being a dead cold fish so I thought I'll let my real self show and he loves it, except that it leaves him wondering where I learned these things and that I must be doing them with this "other guy". No, I just read and view alot. He also snooped in our nightstand and accused me of using my toys instead of being with him. No, I moved them because I was looking for something. It's making me crazy. I truly am doing my best and was starting to love him again and want it to work, but I cannot fix his paranoia about me (not) cheating. This is a t otal turn off for me and I told him so when the toy subject came up. I feel like I'm guilty until proven innocent. He does not know I found this and I'm not sure I want to say anything. He bought this tablet at the end of March so I'm not exactly sure when he did this search. Should I just leave it be for now and wait for him to confront me again? He also has a problem with keeping his feelings straight. I don't know what that is but he does it at work too. One day he likes somebody and the next he doesn't. I guess mood changes??? Strange to me...
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