In light of some of the things she has said lately about her feeling isolated and lonely in our marriage, I'm not sure how to handle this recent event. You see, in our conversations since my EAs were discovered, she has openly admitted that she feels lonely because she has no "friends". Now she openly admits that this is not my doing. In fact, I have often told her to go out without me if she wanted to go see some of her grower friends as I really have no interest in growing cannabis other than to support her efforts by building out raised beds, irrigation, electrical, etc. She wanted her own car, so I bought her a nice Volvo sedan. I've never once told her that I expected her to stay at home while I worked...This is all entirely her doing.
So again, she is in the middle of making arrangements to rent a piece of equipment from a fellow grower that lives about 1.5 hours away, k? Anyway, this guy and his wife just moved to the area and wants to "connect" with people with similar interests. My wife is pushing me really hard to go with her and "mingle" with this couple. Truth be told, I always feel like a "5th Wheel" whenever I'm around her grower friends as I am not a grower/smoker. Often times, if I tell her I'd rather not go, but she should go herself, she ends up staying home....can't win here.
So, she wants me to go with her, but I'd rather tell her something like "Baby, you go and meetup with your friend and have a good time. You need to get out and network and meet new people. Go have a good time and I'll be right here when you get back."
I really want her to have her own friends since she has vocalized her feelings of loneliness and osolation. I know I can't force her, but should I go with her and share with her, or is it appropriate for me to insist that she gets out and makes friends of her own? I already have feelings of guilt that over the years she has become dependent upon me as her sole source of income and care. I can't help but feel that there may be some deep seated resentment in her because of that.
Thoughts? TIA folks.
So again, she is in the middle of making arrangements to rent a piece of equipment from a fellow grower that lives about 1.5 hours away, k? Anyway, this guy and his wife just moved to the area and wants to "connect" with people with similar interests. My wife is pushing me really hard to go with her and "mingle" with this couple. Truth be told, I always feel like a "5th Wheel" whenever I'm around her grower friends as I am not a grower/smoker. Often times, if I tell her I'd rather not go, but she should go herself, she ends up staying home....can't win here.
So, she wants me to go with her, but I'd rather tell her something like "Baby, you go and meetup with your friend and have a good time. You need to get out and network and meet new people. Go have a good time and I'll be right here when you get back."
I really want her to have her own friends since she has vocalized her feelings of loneliness and osolation. I know I can't force her, but should I go with her and share with her, or is it appropriate for me to insist that she gets out and makes friends of her own? I already have feelings of guilt that over the years she has become dependent upon me as her sole source of income and care. I can't help but feel that there may be some deep seated resentment in her because of that.
Thoughts? TIA folks.
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