So last july I broke up with my first boyfriend because he didn't understand the word No, and it was destroying me. I'm not really over it - I'm not ready for another relationship, at least I don't feel like I am. It kinda scares me. He pressured me into stuff I didn't want to do and I'm scared.
In august, I made friends with this guy, who is so nice, funny, a great friend. I remember at the time I thought something about a relationship with him would be nice, but then I thought, No, I'm not ready for that and I only want a friend.
But yesterday he sent a message asking if I was free, I asked why and he said he thought I was cute and wondered if I wanted to get dinner.
I don't know what to do - am I blocking off all chances of a happy relationship just because of the last one being a complete mess? I don't know if I'm ready for it, but I don't want to hurt my friend. He's awesome. I know I probably sound so stupid, but part of the reason I took so long to break up with my last boyfriend was because I was terrified of hurting him. I just don't want to hurt anyone.
But wouldn't it be worse if I entered a relationship I'm not ready for? I mean, I'd have to make it clear to my friend that I don't want to do certain things, and hopefully he'd understand that, unlike my ex.
I don't know. This is probably really stupid I just have little experience with stuff like this - until 2013 I didn't even actually know any guys at all due to being very shy and going to an all-girls school. I definitely didn't have any male friends. I'm just lost.
Please, if you have any advice, let me know.
Thank you.
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