Thoughts on long distance relationships?

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So I've recently became one half of a long distance relationship. I have all the worries that everyone has, will we stay together, will we see each other enough etc. etc.

So I was reading up some information on this and was wondering if your experiences or perceived views matched up with what the statistics say.

So apparently LDRs work better when you are both working towards a common goal. I personally think this is very true. Right now both myself and my boyfriends are trying to get our feet on the rungs of the working world and as such once we have some experience under our belts we will try and come back to the same city (wherever that is in 2 years time).

Additionally, according to this research they say that LDRs cause couples to become more emotionally bonded due to the fact that they can't have a physical relationship as much due to distance. What do you all think about that? Is it true?

Also apparently although the couples can remain strong whilst apart, when they move back together they begin to suffer from instability and end up breaking up shortly afterwards. I really hope this isn't true. I'm not really sure why it is, any thoughts or experience on this?

A couple of sources if you're interested

(2013). Absence Makes the Communication Grow Fonder: Geographic Separation, Interpersonal Media, and Intimacy in Dating

Relationships. Journal of Communication,
Dargie, E., Blair, K., Goldfinger, C., & Pukall, C. (2013). Go Long! Predictors of Positive Relationship Outcomes in Long Distance Dating Relationships. Journal of Sex & Marital

Therapy. doi:10.1080/0092623X.2013.864367

Lydon, J., Pierce, T., & O'Regan, S. (1997). Coping with moral commitment to long-distance dating relationships. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 73(1),

104–113. doi:10.1037/0022-3514.73.1.104

Maguire, K. C. (2007). 'Will It Ever End?': A (Re)examination of Uncertainty in College Student Long-Distance Dating Relationships. Communication Quarterly, 55(4),

415–432. doi:10.1080/01463370701658002

Stafford, L., & Merolla, A. J. (2007). Idealization, reunions, and stability in long-distance dating relationships. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 24(1), 37–54.

doi:10.1177/0265407507072578

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