Hello. I just wanted some advice or some stories from people who have been in a similar situation, because I'm unsure at the moment of what to do.
I moved away from my home country one and half years ago to study here in the UK. I didn't have many friends back there, but I have two friends that I have known for more than half my life. One of them also decided to move far away. Back in my home country, there is just this girl left. While both me and the friend who also went abroad always have been a little more adventurous and outgoing, she has shied away from doing things that she finds uncomfortable. Also, she doesn't have véry good self-confidence. For that reason, she only have two friends and now we've moved away.
It was one and half years since we graduated from high school and the only things she's been doing since then is to watch TV (she had a brief summer job but now that's over). While she certainly had some plans, it just seems like she has stagnated now: she doesn't seem to do anything anymore. Her parents are not unkind, but they never talk about things or try to motivate her. They just let her be.
Me and the other friend abroad has very different approaches to this. While I can be a bit 'over-caring' and try to ask her how she's doing a loot and try to be positive at the smallest hint of a plan, my friend thinks we should respect she's an adult and don't 'stress her out' by asking her questions all the time. I see her point, so I decided to stop asking her how she's doing so she doesn't feel pressured. However, now I'm starting to wonder if that's a good or bad idea. Shouldn't a friend be there to help. one other? But yes, she's an adult, so I probably should not. I guess it's her parents' job, but they certainly won't do anything... I guess I'm thinking a lot back and forth.
I just want some input. Should I stay away and chill out, or should I try to start asking her again? She doesn't talk about her feelings a lot, so it's hard getting a straight answer.
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