I am 32 year old man. I have been married for 7 years. I have a 2.5 yr old boy. I love my wife and child.
Things have been difficult over the past year. Money and the stress of raising a child.
My wife is a SAHM. Our 2 biggest issues are:
1. Fair distribution of work.
2. Money
My wife often looks frustrated and cranky when I come home and gets even more irritated when I bring back work home. Our boy is a handful, and that wears her down. I have good weeks where I can come home by 5-6PM and take him for playtime, but some weeks I get back by 7.
I help by giving him a bath sometimes, getting him ready for bed, reading nighttime stories. But , in all honesty , there are days I can't. I probably do this, 30-40% of the nights.
On the weekends I will take him out on playtime about half of the time. Most times I will ask my wife to come along.
I understand its tough for her, and offer for her to have a girl's night once a week, where I come home early and take care of our son.
I sense growing resentment from her, that I don't do enough. She gets very frustrated and is borderline hostile towards the child. I am trying my best to be a provider and focus my energies on securing our financial future. My hope was that she would just cope better with the stressful situation at home and not be constantly angry or frustrated.
I know I am far from a good husband. but I feel I am too exhausted at the end of the day to do more. I usually wake up 1-2 hours before my wife so I can get work done.
I am quite upset with the dynamic at home. Is anyone else feeling this conflict between working dad and SAHM??
Things have been difficult over the past year. Money and the stress of raising a child.
My wife is a SAHM. Our 2 biggest issues are:
1. Fair distribution of work.
2. Money
My wife often looks frustrated and cranky when I come home and gets even more irritated when I bring back work home. Our boy is a handful, and that wears her down. I have good weeks where I can come home by 5-6PM and take him for playtime, but some weeks I get back by 7.
I help by giving him a bath sometimes, getting him ready for bed, reading nighttime stories. But , in all honesty , there are days I can't. I probably do this, 30-40% of the nights.
On the weekends I will take him out on playtime about half of the time. Most times I will ask my wife to come along.
I understand its tough for her, and offer for her to have a girl's night once a week, where I come home early and take care of our son.
I sense growing resentment from her, that I don't do enough. She gets very frustrated and is borderline hostile towards the child. I am trying my best to be a provider and focus my energies on securing our financial future. My hope was that she would just cope better with the stressful situation at home and not be constantly angry or frustrated.
I know I am far from a good husband. but I feel I am too exhausted at the end of the day to do more. I usually wake up 1-2 hours before my wife so I can get work done.
I am quite upset with the dynamic at home. Is anyone else feeling this conflict between working dad and SAHM??
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