Okay....my friend, single, decided to have an "open house" today telling me that children were welcome...most of her friends are single/divorced and have no kids. I spoke to my H about it and I told him I'd like to go...the plan all along was for me to go on my own for a few hours.
Then we found out a married couple with kids (same age as my son) were going to be there and I tried to coordinate with them the timing.
Our plans today (as a family) fell through so I asked my H if he wanted to go...if he wanted to go we would have to bring our son (as he refuses a sitter or to ask his family to help and my parents are deceased and I have no other family in this area)...he asked if I wanted him to come....I said yes.
He agreed.
He was supposed to come home around 12:45 from tennis (playing at 10:30 am!!).
Around 1:15 pm I was getting nervous and phoned him on his cell and blackberry and did not hear back and was getting frantic. He is never irresponsible. Finally he called me back at 1:45 pm, saying that there was terrible traffic on the highway (getting to court) and that he didn't even get started til close til 12 pm.
I was shocked. If that ever happened to me and I knew my H was home with our son I knew he'd be frantic...I told him that in the FUTURE if he knows he is starting late b/c of traffic, would he PLEASE have the courtesy to call me and let me know that.
Anyway,
He agreed to come to this party.
But no kids were there when we were there and my H was in a rotten mood.
Complaining non-stop to me...(thought you said KIDS would be here???) I told him that they told me they were coming and it's not MY fault that they're not here yet.
(I confided this in one of my friends who went right up to him and said "Mary....is on her way" (ie, the friend with kids!!)
I found this somewhat amusing!
Anyway, my H didn't let up, complaining that this was unsuitable for our son....(we had toys with us but he was running around grabbling hors d'oeurves) and after me that I didn't clean up after our son soon enough after he left a cookie on the floor, complaining that I moved the cookies that my son wouldn't stop touching (thought it was the right thing to do to keep them out of his reach??) when he said I should have just more carefully watched our son??
He was snapping at me the whole time....you need to take the cookie right out of his hands next time he puts it on the rug!!!
Just snipping!
He acted miserable.......was a little better once other friends with kids showed up, but overall looked unhappy.
It was very hard on me....I was trying to socialize and my H was just glaring at me...I think next time I shouldn't ask him to come after all that nastiness....
Any advice as to how to handle this in the future? we only had one car so I couldn't just go home!
Then we found out a married couple with kids (same age as my son) were going to be there and I tried to coordinate with them the timing.
Our plans today (as a family) fell through so I asked my H if he wanted to go...if he wanted to go we would have to bring our son (as he refuses a sitter or to ask his family to help and my parents are deceased and I have no other family in this area)...he asked if I wanted him to come....I said yes.
He agreed.
He was supposed to come home around 12:45 from tennis (playing at 10:30 am!!).
Around 1:15 pm I was getting nervous and phoned him on his cell and blackberry and did not hear back and was getting frantic. He is never irresponsible. Finally he called me back at 1:45 pm, saying that there was terrible traffic on the highway (getting to court) and that he didn't even get started til close til 12 pm.
I was shocked. If that ever happened to me and I knew my H was home with our son I knew he'd be frantic...I told him that in the FUTURE if he knows he is starting late b/c of traffic, would he PLEASE have the courtesy to call me and let me know that.
Anyway,
He agreed to come to this party.
But no kids were there when we were there and my H was in a rotten mood.
Complaining non-stop to me...(thought you said KIDS would be here???) I told him that they told me they were coming and it's not MY fault that they're not here yet.
(I confided this in one of my friends who went right up to him and said "Mary....is on her way" (ie, the friend with kids!!)
I found this somewhat amusing!
Anyway, my H didn't let up, complaining that this was unsuitable for our son....(we had toys with us but he was running around grabbling hors d'oeurves) and after me that I didn't clean up after our son soon enough after he left a cookie on the floor, complaining that I moved the cookies that my son wouldn't stop touching (thought it was the right thing to do to keep them out of his reach??) when he said I should have just more carefully watched our son??
He was snapping at me the whole time....you need to take the cookie right out of his hands next time he puts it on the rug!!!
Just snipping!
He acted miserable.......was a little better once other friends with kids showed up, but overall looked unhappy.
It was very hard on me....I was trying to socialize and my H was just glaring at me...I think next time I shouldn't ask him to come after all that nastiness....
Any advice as to how to handle this in the future? we only had one car so I couldn't just go home!
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