Hi everyone,
Me and my girl were together for 2 and a half years. The relationship was rocky, especially in the last few months. We had trust issues and argued a lot. I tend to say bad things to someone, when I am angry. One month ago she broke up with me, because we were arguing too much and I said bad things to her out of anger... She told me she cant handle it anymore and that I will never change. At this time she also had an abortion. We decided both that it is the best thing to do after she got pregnant.
So after she broke up with me, I was begging, calling and tried to talk her out of this desicion. I told her I changed and learned from my mistakes. So one week ago I thought she got warmed up, we were flirting, we had contact and even met up but i guess I took things too fast, tried to touch her but she was distant and didnt like it. A week later she told me that I am moving too fast and she needs much more time before even thinking of get physical again. I told her I will give her time and would be happy if we still would be in contact. So now we are still in contact but she just replies to my messages, she never asks something and is very distant. Now she doesnt want to meet me and everytime I offer a meeting she denies it. It´s like she is cold and distant again like shortly after the break up.
She also is dealing with the abortion and its hard for her. She feels guilty and is confused, I know that by the way she is talking about it. Maybe this is one reason why she is so distant. When we met each other it seemed like she sort of doesn´t want to see me. I also got the feeling that she is still very angry about my verbally abusive behaviour after the breakup..
But I love this girl so much.. Even if she is telling me, she has no feelings for me at all, I think she still got feelings but they are kind of burried under the anger and the emotional pain and stress she is going through.
I really want her back but don´t know what would be the best to get her to open up?? I thought about no contact for a few weeks and then try again but I don´t know if that would help? I mean we got contact until this day but the way she is responding is so cold and hurts me so much.. even if she is answering all of my messages.. Should I ask her to leave her alone for a while? Or should I just keep contact and try? I don´t know what to do and I am feeling so hopeless..
Please!!! Help!
Me and my girl were together for 2 and a half years. The relationship was rocky, especially in the last few months. We had trust issues and argued a lot. I tend to say bad things to someone, when I am angry. One month ago she broke up with me, because we were arguing too much and I said bad things to her out of anger... She told me she cant handle it anymore and that I will never change. At this time she also had an abortion. We decided both that it is the best thing to do after she got pregnant.
So after she broke up with me, I was begging, calling and tried to talk her out of this desicion. I told her I changed and learned from my mistakes. So one week ago I thought she got warmed up, we were flirting, we had contact and even met up but i guess I took things too fast, tried to touch her but she was distant and didnt like it. A week later she told me that I am moving too fast and she needs much more time before even thinking of get physical again. I told her I will give her time and would be happy if we still would be in contact. So now we are still in contact but she just replies to my messages, she never asks something and is very distant. Now she doesnt want to meet me and everytime I offer a meeting she denies it. It´s like she is cold and distant again like shortly after the break up.
She also is dealing with the abortion and its hard for her. She feels guilty and is confused, I know that by the way she is talking about it. Maybe this is one reason why she is so distant. When we met each other it seemed like she sort of doesn´t want to see me. I also got the feeling that she is still very angry about my verbally abusive behaviour after the breakup..
But I love this girl so much.. Even if she is telling me, she has no feelings for me at all, I think she still got feelings but they are kind of burried under the anger and the emotional pain and stress she is going through.
I really want her back but don´t know what would be the best to get her to open up?? I thought about no contact for a few weeks and then try again but I don´t know if that would help? I mean we got contact until this day but the way she is responding is so cold and hurts me so much.. even if she is answering all of my messages.. Should I ask her to leave her alone for a while? Or should I just keep contact and try? I don´t know what to do and I am feeling so hopeless..
Please!!! Help!
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