Hi all,
Currently I am on a 'break' with my wife of 5 years (together 9) two kids aged 7 and 3.
This has happened over the last two weeks and I am not coping very well being without her. Unfortunately there is someone else involved from her side but their is a weird twist to the story.
For years I have admittedly been struggling with anxiety and stress issues and my wife has been a rock to me pulling me through. Until recently when I went down again. She began chatting to a guy 15 years her junior, and he claimed he was 100% gay. Not a threat.......
It became an issue when they were constantly texting, chatting on the phone, Skype etc etc. When I finally put my foot down and said it was becoming a bit obsessive it was too late.
They had bonded emotionally to the point where she saw him as her best friend. I was suspicious of his sexuality and tried to warn her but she didn't listen. He would deliberately say things to me alone to make me argue with her and push her even further to him.
Then one night after a huge fight I left and she had him round and they slept together.
He had never been with a female before and now claims that he only wants her and if he can't he would return to men.
They claim that they are in love and the only thing that stopped her leaving me for him was the fact that we have kids and a house etc.
She says she still loves me and wanted to fix us for the practical reasons first and then for the emotional connection for us to come back.
She is still in contact with him on a daily basis but claims it is because she is finding it hard to break all contact and needs time to cut it down to nothing.
I love her so much it hurts, and I know my mistakes and I know that she could only take so much of me pushing her away and making her feel worthless but I also know that if she goes to him she will be throwing away everything for a fairy tale life that will never happen.
Not sure what I can do.
Currently I am on a 'break' with my wife of 5 years (together 9) two kids aged 7 and 3.
This has happened over the last two weeks and I am not coping very well being without her. Unfortunately there is someone else involved from her side but their is a weird twist to the story.
For years I have admittedly been struggling with anxiety and stress issues and my wife has been a rock to me pulling me through. Until recently when I went down again. She began chatting to a guy 15 years her junior, and he claimed he was 100% gay. Not a threat.......
It became an issue when they were constantly texting, chatting on the phone, Skype etc etc. When I finally put my foot down and said it was becoming a bit obsessive it was too late.
They had bonded emotionally to the point where she saw him as her best friend. I was suspicious of his sexuality and tried to warn her but she didn't listen. He would deliberately say things to me alone to make me argue with her and push her even further to him.
Then one night after a huge fight I left and she had him round and they slept together.
He had never been with a female before and now claims that he only wants her and if he can't he would return to men.
They claim that they are in love and the only thing that stopped her leaving me for him was the fact that we have kids and a house etc.
She says she still loves me and wanted to fix us for the practical reasons first and then for the emotional connection for us to come back.
She is still in contact with him on a daily basis but claims it is because she is finding it hard to break all contact and needs time to cut it down to nothing.
I love her so much it hurts, and I know my mistakes and I know that she could only take so much of me pushing her away and making her feel worthless but I also know that if she goes to him she will be throwing away everything for a fairy tale life that will never happen.
Not sure what I can do.
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