Let me start by telling you a little about me. I am 23 years old. Married for the second time (my first husband was very abusive after he picked up a awful drug addiction during our 1st year of marriage. Counseling did NOT work). After the divorce was finalized and my 2 year old and I got out we met this wonderful man. He was also divorced, 28, and had two amazing children of his own along with one step son that he has raised since he was 6 months old. This man changed our life. So, I am 23 years old. Remarried, with a happily blended family of 5 children and I am 35 weeks pregnant with our 6th. We have been very happily married for the past 2 years.
My problem: While I love my husband dearly and am VERY attracted to him. And, thankfully he allows me to be a stay at home Mommy and wife (because we have custody of his 3 we CANNOT afford childcare for 4 LOs right now) and he takes excellent care of us. No one ever wants for anything... his sex drive is killing me. I realize that I don't work outside of the home. And that I should always be available to him, but I am just exhausted. We have 3 that were born in a 11 month time span. The girls are 3 and the youngest is 2 while the oldest is 8. While the girls are potty trained baby boy hasn't quite made it that far yet. And there's a house to clean, laundry piling up, and constantly someone needing Momma/B's attention. Finally after the kids are in bed I'm ready to crash and he's just getting started.
I guess my question is... Is it wrong of me to turn him down when he does so much to support us? When he works so hard to make sure we all have the things we want and need? I don't want to be the mean wife who doesn't give her husband what he needs, but i'm just sooooo tired. opinions? advice?
My problem: While I love my husband dearly and am VERY attracted to him. And, thankfully he allows me to be a stay at home Mommy and wife (because we have custody of his 3 we CANNOT afford childcare for 4 LOs right now) and he takes excellent care of us. No one ever wants for anything... his sex drive is killing me. I realize that I don't work outside of the home. And that I should always be available to him, but I am just exhausted. We have 3 that were born in a 11 month time span. The girls are 3 and the youngest is 2 while the oldest is 8. While the girls are potty trained baby boy hasn't quite made it that far yet. And there's a house to clean, laundry piling up, and constantly someone needing Momma/B's attention. Finally after the kids are in bed I'm ready to crash and he's just getting started.
I guess my question is... Is it wrong of me to turn him down when he does so much to support us? When he works so hard to make sure we all have the things we want and need? I don't want to be the mean wife who doesn't give her husband what he needs, but i'm just sooooo tired. opinions? advice?
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