My marriage is fairly good and we have issues every now and then that can be resolved. I'd say compared to the years prior, things are much better. There's still this one issue I just can't seem to fix.
My husband doesn't seem to like people. I'm not sure if he doesn't like people...but he doesn't want to meet them. He complains a LOT about how he has no friends, no one wants to hang out with him, etc. When I mention he has to give people a chance to see if he'd want to hang out with them instead of writing them off, it just makes him upset. Yeah I'll be honest, he acts like a child about this. "Why can't people be more like ME?" "Why can't I find people who are the same?" I've said um honey, that's what's nice about people-- no one is the same and I think we all like each other better for that!
The frustrating part of this is he refuses to go out when we are invited to things. I end up going alone embarrassed because we had an argument just before I left about how I'm selfish for having fun without him. To top it off, I get hounded by people about why he isn't with me. I've told DH, people actually want to get to know you and he acts like I'm lying. There have been countless of gatherings and events where he's been invited with me and he refuses to go.
I'm worried this can become a much bigger problem than it is. I've read and heard enough stories from women how their husbands were the same way and they ended up divorced because it was just the surface of a lot of other issues:( I don't like leaving him at home, but I can stay at home and listen to him whine about how "nobody likes me" or I can go out and enjoy myself for a couple of hours. On the other hand, I wonder how appropriate it is for me to leave him at home because I'm married and I don't know if it's right for me to just do my own thing when he should be by my side. I thought that was one of the perks about being married-- to know your spouse will be with you at social gatherings and you can enjoy things together? Maybe my expectations are too high, but this has me really worried.
My husband doesn't seem to like people. I'm not sure if he doesn't like people...but he doesn't want to meet them. He complains a LOT about how he has no friends, no one wants to hang out with him, etc. When I mention he has to give people a chance to see if he'd want to hang out with them instead of writing them off, it just makes him upset. Yeah I'll be honest, he acts like a child about this. "Why can't people be more like ME?" "Why can't I find people who are the same?" I've said um honey, that's what's nice about people-- no one is the same and I think we all like each other better for that!
The frustrating part of this is he refuses to go out when we are invited to things. I end up going alone embarrassed because we had an argument just before I left about how I'm selfish for having fun without him. To top it off, I get hounded by people about why he isn't with me. I've told DH, people actually want to get to know you and he acts like I'm lying. There have been countless of gatherings and events where he's been invited with me and he refuses to go.
I'm worried this can become a much bigger problem than it is. I've read and heard enough stories from women how their husbands were the same way and they ended up divorced because it was just the surface of a lot of other issues:( I don't like leaving him at home, but I can stay at home and listen to him whine about how "nobody likes me" or I can go out and enjoy myself for a couple of hours. On the other hand, I wonder how appropriate it is for me to leave him at home because I'm married and I don't know if it's right for me to just do my own thing when he should be by my side. I thought that was one of the perks about being married-- to know your spouse will be with you at social gatherings and you can enjoy things together? Maybe my expectations are too high, but this has me really worried.
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