H and I have a pretty good sex life; This post is more about after sex.
I hardly drink, and I've never smoked anything, so pretty much the only high I ever get is from sex. It can last about 2hr, depending on how intense we were.
My trouble is that soon after (daytime) sex, when I have a tendency to be unfocused and dreamy, H often likes to engage in serious conversation, talk about sensitive issues, or discuss finances even though I'm not exactly in the best state of mind for it. As a result, some of our worst fights are after some of the best sex. (They are also usually when we haven't eaten)
Like today, we had a great go of it.:D Then, I drove H to work before running errands. I'm on cloud 9. When driving, he criticizes the lane that I pick to be in ("Its not you, its the other drivers") Then he starts asking me about my current mindset about jobs and how we're going to have enough money come June (I've been trying to switch careers, and I'm also the primary earner) But I am unable to participate appropriately in this conversation, I mostly nod, because I am 1-still on my sex high and 2-trying to drive (Also, neither of us has had more than coffee and its already past lunchtime) So, we don't actually argue, but he leaves the car somewhat frustrated because I'm "acting weird" again.
Does anybody else experience this? Any advice? I don't know if/how to explain this to H. I don't ever want to make him feel like he shouldn't communicate with me, but his timing is terrible, I almost have started thinking about devising ways to avoid him afterwards, but that doesn't seem helpful either.:confused:
I hardly drink, and I've never smoked anything, so pretty much the only high I ever get is from sex. It can last about 2hr, depending on how intense we were.
My trouble is that soon after (daytime) sex, when I have a tendency to be unfocused and dreamy, H often likes to engage in serious conversation, talk about sensitive issues, or discuss finances even though I'm not exactly in the best state of mind for it. As a result, some of our worst fights are after some of the best sex. (They are also usually when we haven't eaten)
Like today, we had a great go of it.:D Then, I drove H to work before running errands. I'm on cloud 9. When driving, he criticizes the lane that I pick to be in ("Its not you, its the other drivers") Then he starts asking me about my current mindset about jobs and how we're going to have enough money come June (I've been trying to switch careers, and I'm also the primary earner) But I am unable to participate appropriately in this conversation, I mostly nod, because I am 1-still on my sex high and 2-trying to drive (Also, neither of us has had more than coffee and its already past lunchtime) So, we don't actually argue, but he leaves the car somewhat frustrated because I'm "acting weird" again.
Does anybody else experience this? Any advice? I don't know if/how to explain this to H. I don't ever want to make him feel like he shouldn't communicate with me, but his timing is terrible, I almost have started thinking about devising ways to avoid him afterwards, but that doesn't seem helpful either.:confused:
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