"What do Women Want?" (new book on women and sex)

So recently the NY Times book review discussed a new book called "What do Women Want" which researches female sexual desire. (Full article can be found at www.nytimes.com/2013/06/16/books/review/what-do-women-want-by-daniel-bergner.html). In reading the article I found this portion very interesting: Quote: The theory most often mentioned across disciplines is that women, like men, are inclined to promiscuity. This notion is so far supported by animal studies and long-range surveys of women, which have found that low levels of sex drive are correlated with the number of years they've been in a monogamous relationship; women's sexual interest in steady partners may plummet even more quickly than men's. This view is corroborated in the book by couples therapists who specialize in trying to help women regain sexual interest in their partners through thought experiments and mandatory date nights. They are notably pessimistic about how much heat all this homework can be expected to generate. The crucial point, Bergner writes, is that flagging sex drive is not just an inevitability for women — it is specifically the result of long-term monogamy. Even the hormonal decrease of menopause can be entirely overridden by the appearance of a new sexual partner. So I think the research may in fact bear out what I have suspected when it comes to a lot of "LD" women... it is not an emotional or physical issue in many cases. Long-term monogamy lowers sex drive, for women just as much (if not more) than men. It seems clear-cut to me, and the research bears it out. So we end up with men mystified and hurt by their wife's declining interest in sex... they think they can "do" something to turn that around... yet they are fighting against basic biology. Since women don't understand this either, they also wrongly assume that there is either something wrong with them, or with their husband. When in fact it is the lowering sex drive that is a natural result of long-term monogamy. Which begs the question whether long-term monogamy is even a good idea. Given the number of unhappy, low-sex/sexless marriages, it makes me wonder...

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